I have a problem . Maybe if I write about it I can find some solutions.
#1, Im scared. Tom is getting worse fast. Yes, I have had all the time in the world to think this through but Im not any closer now then I was 10 yrs. ago. The thing I didnt factor in was my own health. His ulcer is taking his ability to walk. Along with ongoing pain in his feet.
One project at a time right ? Its a roller coaster. He always did dishes. and now he hurts to walk to the bathroom. It order for him to use his riding chair he needs my bathroom and furniture needs to be moved. A lot of furniture. In the meantime, I cant bend to do anything. There is cat puke under my dining room table . Been there since yesterday. Thats normally my job and I havent told anyone its there because Tom cant clean it and Robert wont. I wait for company.
This is nasty, I dont want to live this way. Roberts aversion for water extends to dishes. I am going to buy him some gloves and try again. He has picked up on some chores. Im happy for that but not enough . I am not going to have him take care of this whole house including his mom and dad. Its not fair to him. He does all heavy stuff, garbage, mail, his laundry, he cooks for everyone once a week. It has to be something very simple . If you have read this far give me an emoji face. I think we just need more help here. I dont know what to do.
Sorry for the long rant.
You know, I asked my pain dr. How does one learn to cope with pain? I mean, knowing that every single day for the rest of your life you are going to hurt. How do others deal with that ? Her answer, One day at a time.
Too bad assisted living isn't an option. Then you would have help any time. Did you talk to your doctor about how much help you both need?
No room and board are big expenses.
