Granny's gone and done it again

[Granny Hatchet]

Is there a dementia support group in your area?

Not sure I would have time to go even if they do.

 

[Cynthia12]

Thanks everyone. This is the first time he has acted like this. Ever.. Im not keen on jumping straight to meds. I appreciate the heads up though. It could be UTI again or a number of different things that caused today to be.

Very true! Could be another UTI. Scott didn't get ornery when he got them, just very very confused.

 

[Finchbreeder]

Sorry you are having to deal with this Granny. But despite the fact that he does not know it, your love and care are helping.

 

[Granny Hatchet]

Sorry you are having to deal with this Granny. But despite the fact that he does not know it, your love and care are helping.

Thank you Finch

 

[BigBlueHen53]

Granny -
You have to be a saint to deal with this. It's basically uncharted territory, every day is a new challenge. It would be difficult for a strong, young, healthy person and no offense but you are none of those things. You can't count on getting a good night's sleep, ever. You are in constant pain yourself. And you're not trained or experienced to deal with it. Hospice would be a big help to you. You don't have to do this alone. Hospice is not just for people who are dying. It's for ... well, it's for people in your situation. Use them! At least give them a call and see what they can do for you.

 

[BigBlueHen53]

My boy is home !

 

[Granny Hatchet]

My boy is home !

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[Granny Hatchet]

Granny -
You have to be a saint to deal with this. It's basically uncharted territory, every day is a new challenge. It would be difficult for a strong, young, healthy person and no offense but you are none of those things. You can't count on getting a good night's sleep, ever. You are in constant pain yourself. And you're not trained or experienced to deal with it. Hospice would be a big help to you. You don't have to do this alone. Hospice is not just for people who are dying. It's for ... well, it's for people in your situation. Use them! At least give them a call and see what they can do for you.

Hospice to me sounds like giving up or admitting Im not a strong enough person. I feel like this is my job and I need to do it. I need to draw from my reserves. Who took care of the people like in my grandfathers time? My grandmother did because she also felt these things and she had no choice nor would she of wanted one. We were raised up to take care of our own and yes, I know how asinine that sounds but to give up is to admit defeat.

 

[microchick]

Thanks, Granny. I'm blessed. DH is 74 and going strong. One of the most intelligent men I have ever known. Besides my work experience, both of my parents had dementia and were diagnosed within two years of one another.

My dad was happily confused. Never caused any trouble. Just forgot everything, wandered around and had to be supervised about everything.

My mom was violent. Towards my dad and towards me also. Bruises, pulled out hair, split lips, black eyes. To say it was horrible would be putting it mildly. I finally had to put dad in a nursing home to separate them, then took care of mom until she passed 3 years later. Took care of dad in my home then for 6 years before he became more than I could handle. I could write a book. So yep, been there done that got the t-shirt as they say.

@Cynthia12, blessed be the caregiver for they have a special place in heaven.

 

[microchick]

Hospice to me sounds like giving up or admitting Im not a strong enough person. I feel like this is my job and I need to do it. I need to draw from my reserves. Who took care of the people like in my grandfathers time? My grandmother did because she also felt these things and she had no choice nor would she of wanted one. We were raised up to take care of our own and yes, I know how asinine that sounds but to give up is to admit defeat.

No, no no no no, Granny. You are a strong person. Don't be afraid to ask for help. Believe me. Did you know that caregivers on average have a shorter life span due to the stress and emotional not to mention physical pain they suffer taking care of their loved ones?

What is going to happen to Robert and Tom if something happens to you because you tried to do too much and it took a tole on you physically? I admire your attitude but there is no sin in needing help. Think about how well Tom did in the nursing home while he was there. I'm not saying put him back there what I'm saying is you had help and he benefited from it....and so did you.

Think about that please.