Sigh. So the drama...
Back story: FiL is a bit rough around the edges, biker veteran type. He had custody of hubs...but MiL and the stepdad kinda took him and ran and he couldn't track them down for a while.
In the meantime hubs' head was filled with all sort of rot and such that FiL was deadbeat and scum and all sorts of fun stuff. (FiL doesn't say anything bad about MiL I should say. He's quite clear on his thoughts on the stepdad though)
Trying to repair the relationship between hubs and FiL but it's tricky...probably cause of all the conflicting crap.
We've been going through baby pics and all that. I don't see a deadbeat dad. I see a dad who was so happy and proud of his son...though I do wonder how he got custody - especially knowing the legal system the way it is. But. I've seen him trying while I've been around. And that gets bonus points from me. He's also got a half sister on this side, she's a good kid (I say kid, she's sixteen some odd now...)
MiL and SD (stepdad) kinda treated him like the red headed stepchild...once they found out they were expecting their daughter he got moved out into a trailer - when he was 14 or 15. He's definitely got some Feral child stuff going on...and even knowing his friends that he grew up with post their running away down here...the things they tell me...makes me wonder why they even bothered running off with hubs. When they need something they'll contact. And don't care how they want it now. She'd call us out of the blue saying some family was visiting and we should meet them down the hill...uh. Couldn't have warned us they were coming so we can adjust our plans accordingly? And she'd scream and curse at hubs if he didn't drop everything for her whims. I should also mention that hubs resembles his dad. A lot. The half sisters on his mom's side...look a lot like her. I see this now that I've been going through baby pics lol.
She sent him a text before thanksgiving playing the guilt trip card saying "if you want me out of your life I understand blah blah blah if you don't answer I'll assume that's what you want" of course hubs doesn't know how to handle this and doesn't answer. She says not a word to me.
Haven't heard from her since. Until now. She sends us both this text:
We need to sit down and talk this is ridicules.
I'm not going to keep lying to family and friends like nothing is wrong. You need to tell me why you are not speaking to us including your sister. You name the time and place, so we can move forward on this.
Love Mom
See, this has always been something she's done. She's not upset her relationship with her son is borked. She's upset of how it looks to the family.
And his two half sisters - one is a big girl now all moved out and I'm not very close with her, don't have her on Facebook but hey. I think it's the youngest she's whining about - and I talk to her (and used to work with her bf so kept an eye on her vicariously)
Bear in mind he's not been overly close with either of his sisters since there's a huge age difference and he moved out when youngest was still a kid. (She just turned 16)
I responded after a while that yeah. at the very least her and I will have a sit down woman to woman. She responds that she needs to talk to my hubs.
Guess what MiL. You made your bed. I stand by my hubs. If he doesn't want to talk to you, I'm not going to make him. If talking to me isn't sufficient, keep lying to the relatives. I'm beyond caring.