Yep Dennis, I think you stand a better chance living under a bridge than in one of those institutions. I suspect they give the people some drugs to keep them quiet. Sometimes they seem lucid and at other times they are in Lalaland. I think it depends upon when they were given their medicine.
Another place I recommend people avoid is Indian Health Service.
I go to the VA now, and so far, it seems to be alright. I go see the oncologist tomorrow, and I hope everything is alright.
The last time I was there, some fellow brought his friend in for chemo. The guy looked to be at death's door. Later I went to the men's room, and that guy was in there crying his eyes out. I guess he knew the end was near for his friend.
Death comes for everyone, so be prepared. Get rid of all of those socks that have lost their mates; you will never find the other one. Burn those old love letters from the old girl friends, otherwise, your kids will be reading them when they clean out your stuff.
Junk sticks to me like cockelburrs. I need to get rid of a bunch of stuff. I don't want my kids wondering "why in the Hell did he keep all of this crap."
When my parents passed away, we had to clean up their stuff. We found an old bathrobe in the back of a closet. It was a mess, but guess what, my mother had it stuffed with one dollar bills. Every day before my father went to work, he would give my mother two dollars "just in case."
I only saw her spend money one time. She bought a new Rambler car for $2,500 and paid for it in one dollar bills. She bought it from Evan Meacham who later became Governor of the State of Arizona. It took them about three hours to count all of those one dollar bills.
I have never known the term assisted living to mean anything other than a nursing home. An every one of those I have ever been in were very bad places that were clearly meant to get old an disabled people out of the way for people that were not willing to take care of their own.
Assisted Dying is a better description of them.
As with any business (nursing homes are a business) there are good ones, fair ones, and bad ones.
My wife is a charge nurse in the assisted living section of a nice retirement center.
You need to remember that the residence of the home are no longer able to care for themselves. The only ones that leave alive are the ones that go to a hospital to die. They don't get there and then get younger and better and move back home !
Picking a good nursing home is very easy. Just walk in a take a breath, if you smell urine it's not a good place, if you don't then it's probably a good place. And the price will tell you something. You don't get the same quality at McDonald's as you do at a nice expensive place. You get what you pay for !
And yes it is assisted dying, but it's better then unassisted dying. If you wish to die at home alone in pain that is your choice. But you are going to die.
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