Grrrr.. Need help with idiot BIL's sick dog.

[TipsyDog]

I'd go get the dog. I've never met a dog I didn't like and no animal deserves what she's getting. Personally, I'd rather see you put a bullet in it's head than what it's going through now. But that's me. You can't choose family - you just have to deal with them. Go ... Deal....

This is one of the saddest posts I've read on BYC in a long time. Someone needs to stand up for this animal - even to put it down!

 

[cmjust0]

Got home last night and my wife had talked to her idiot brother again.. I asked, "So do you wanna go over there? We can maybe try some Red Cell and ..." -- she stops me short and says he really doesn't want ME over there....just her.

See, he wanted her to come over there and sit up with his dog all night so he could sleep....ya know, because she doesn't have a job job and should be at his disposal, just like their retired dad. He didn't want me there because he knew I'd have to come home and he knew he couldn't con her into staying if she didn't have a vehicle to drive home.

As my wife was trying to figure out what he wanted from her, she asked him if there was anything else he wanted to try that we had...Safe Guard, Red Cell, a b-complex shot.. Nope...he said he thought she had what she needed, even though the vet said SHE STILL HAS WORMS. What they're doing for the worms...nobody knows. Is she on wormer? Don't think so.. What's she on? Um, some antibiotic HE THINKS...not sure, though. They sent him home with a line in her front leg, a bag of lactated ringers, and an IV set....he couldn't figure it out. So he gave up on it, saying he'd prolly just take her back to the vet tomorrow and have them replace the line.

Oh, the vet says she also has severe liver damage, but this vet seems to me like kind of an idiot, so who knows.. She may..

Anyway, needless to say, my wife didn't go over there last night. We've got a dog that's going to the vet at 3pm today to have her ears looked at because they're bugging her...and because we care. She couldn't very well go over to moron's house and sit up with the dog all night while his lazy hind end laid in bed.

Ugh..

Oh, and did I mention...this isn't a little brother we're talking about. I'm 31, my wife's actually a few years older than me, and this is her older brother.. I think he's 38, maybe 39.. How ridiculous is that?!??

 

[Brindlebtch]

Put the poor thing down.

 

[cmjust0]

Oh, and check this out...

Idiot married another idiot several years ago, and they're recently divorced. I liked him better than her, if that tells you anything. So anyway, they get divorced and he basically starts dating this lady whom we call "the cougar" directly after that...she's almost 50.

Anyway, the cougar is giving him problems right now -- I won't even go there.. It's got to do with another schizo guy, her own messed up children, and that she's been going to church for like 10 minutes and is suddenly WAAAAAY better than everyone else...or something...don't know, don't care.

Anyway, so moron did what he always does and started calling his ex-wife again, who by the way really only wanted the divorce because divorce = drama -- and she LOVES drama.

There's a dog component to all this, I promise...I'm going somewhere. Y'all are gonna just love it, too..

So, he calls up the ex and has lunch with her or whatever right in the middle of all this dog stuff, because ya know, making the cougar angry and stringing the ex along are every bit as important as his actual responsibilities.. The ex ends up going to the vet's office with him to see the dog and talk to the vet. That happened to be when the vet recommended to put the dog down..

BIL actually agreed..

The doc draws up the lethals and the ex, in all her dramatic glory, says "STOP! I'M NOT READY YET!"

DRAMA DRAMA DRAMA

I said to my wife "...and you KNOW she waited until he was just about to push the plunger before saying anything, just to make the moment as dramatic as possible..." I think my wife was still just too stunned that her idiot brother let his EX WIFE make the decision to keep his dog suffering to have even really considered how dramatic she probably made the whole thing... I literally saw the look of horror come over her face as it sunk in..

Soooooo, yeah. That's why the dog's still alive -- so her bro's ex can create drama and/or have a reason to call him and come over. That's who these people are.

I'm really thinking we should put him, his ex, the cougar, the cougar's other guy, and the dog down at the same time....and possibly the cougar's kids, because they sound like supreme dbags in the making.

Aaaaaand pretty much he doesn't want any actual help from anybody, unless you agree to just go and sit with the dog and basically do nothing.

As you might imagine...it's just not possible for a person with a humane bone in their body to go and sit and do NOTHING for a dog that's suffering, so he's most likely going to get the kind of help from us that he's asking for -- NONE.

 

[bkreugar]

Wow he doesn't even sound like he has 1/2 a brain.He IS willing to spend the money on the vet but not just do a little work for the dog himself.SOOO LAZZYYY!!!

But I must say I AM impressed with your analytical skills and your ability to NOT be manipulated. I often find men are more blind to the twists of manipulation. obviously you are not one of them!

 

[Wolf-Kim]

Call the animal humane society.

This man should not have animals, period.

 

[jjthink]

Haven't been able to read all the posts yet but seeing as the situation is very time sensitive/critical, go get the dog, or go be with the dog (your wife, that is) to treat it- do whatever is necessary to help the dog, now. Deal with the rest later.
JJ

 

[cmjust0]

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He took her to two different vets, actually.. The first was the one who gave him the wormer you sprinkle on food, even though she was anorexic from worms.

The second wanted to run a bunch of tests and was more $$$, so he bailed and went back to the cheap doc that couldn't even manage to effectively clear a case of worms..

He's a terrible decision maker, btw, in case you guys hadn't already determined that.

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Well...I can be very manipulative, myself. I was raised by an extremely skilled manipulatress, so I learned it young and come by it very honestly. I'm one of those people who can figure out what your weaknesses are and exploit them to my advantage in fairly short order, unless you're an extremely confident person. Most aren't, though. If it starts to come as easily as it did to me over the years, you sorta start using it all the time to make life easier for YOU.. Being able to employ carefully chosen words, using specific tones of voice, certain body language...eventually you just sorta do it without even thinking.

Not something I'm particularly proud of, but something I've come to realize about myself...and I'm working on it. I'm hoping that if I can keep from doing it long enough, I'll eventually forget how.

I know I'll always be able to spot a manipulator at 100 yards, though, and I'll probably always be able to tell immediately if people are lying to me.

 

[cmjust0]

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Yeah, but he won't allow anyone to help the dog.. All he'll allow is for someone to sit with the dog....though he's practically demanding that. Their mom & dad actually offered to keep the dog at their place, and he refused, saying that someone should come to HIS house -- 25+ miles from everyone -- and sit with the dog. Come, sit, do nothing else.. Don't try anything, don't give her anything, just sit.

Sorry, but my wife's just not able to go sit with a dying dog with her hands tied behind her back. Could she sneak in a little Red Cell, some fenbendazole, a shot of b-complex, etc? Maybe, but I wouldn't put it past him to file some kind of lawsuit if he found out and thought it hastened the dog's death.

 

[jjthink]

I would go there, take the dog and leave. That's just me.
I don't suffer idiots well, especially when an innocent being is suffering as a result.
If not prepared to do this, bring in the Humane Society immediately, as someone else suggested.
JJ