Its takeing me a week to write this purely because when i say it to myself it kinda sounds like im whineing so id like your honest opinion A bit bout me , im not pushing 50 anymore im dragging it , divorced with 2 grown sons and 2 grandchildren , i recently mouved an hrs drive to an area that i dont know anybody , my sons live beside each other and a half hr drive from me ,when i mouved 2yrs ago i was quite upset at leaveing my job /the place i grew up and my mam who lived next door to me ,the day i mouved my sons and future daughter-inlaw assured me i was not on my own and everything would work out fine ,i sold my home to get away from a lowzy relationship id been in for a long time and put a lot of blood sweat and tears not to mention money into my home ,anyway after the sale it was like a relive to be away from the grief and now think of here as home . Whats angered me ..well more hurt me is i have gotten little or no support from my sons ,up until they got their own homes we were very close and always had a great relationship but when the wife/partner came on the scene all those yrs of rearing them went straight down the tubes ,i rarely get a visit and as this place needed so much work because an elderly lived here and it was vacant for 2yrs ,so you can imagine what the house and garden was like . I know the girls see their familys every week so what is it about sons that they have lots of time to spend time with their inlaws but are far to busy to visit and help me out from time to time ,its hard going here financialy and the sheer workload ,most days im ok but theres days when im overwhelmed with the whole lot ,im no shrinking violate when it comes to work and iv bonded and skimmed the walls ,fixed burst pipes dureing the freeze and sorted a dodgy washing machine ,it would be just nice sometimes for the phone to ring and here one of my sons say Hiya mam wel be down to give you a dig out ,this week iv turned my phone off ,i dont need calls just to say hiya when they know im struggleing . So the Question is ..am i been selfish /unreasonable to expect a helping hand ? Appologies if i made you guys nodd off , i know it was a long one.