He could have killed her!!!!!

[PineappleMama]

Well, maybe just a

and maybe a

are in order...

But if that sort of thing... "just to see what happens' keeps up that "boy" would be out on his ear. No way would I risk him trying to 'see what would happen' with one of my little ones who trust and look up to him... nope, nuh uh.

 

[Jkioneil]

i hear ya. and i am still pretty steamed about it. and it worries me. i dont think my daughter would ever even think of doing that. but she has a good head on her shoulders and she has been raised with animals and raises puppies for the autistic society. He has never had a cat let alone chickens. but believe me i am keeping a close watch

 

[Knock Kneed Hen]

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As have I. I agree that some may lack empathy. However, I think it's more likely that this 17 yr. old heard: "Wa wa wa wa, chickens, wa wa, wa, wa." When a child says "I wanted to see what would happen" we automatically assume that they wanted to see what horrible thing would happen. Perhaps he wanted to see if the chick would be accepted by the hens. He removed it as soon as he saw it was being picked on and he went for help.

edited to fix spacing

 

[kfchickenlady]

thank you all who posted about no common sense daughters!!! Mine is 15, an A student, but NO common sense....she thinks she does, its just based on Her Reality of the World....but seriously I watch her like a hawk just walking through a parking lot so she doesnt get hit by a car! LOL She will walk right by her goats water which is very low, and it doesnt ring a bell, I send her back and of course theres the big sigh and eye rolling, and I AM! boy, it sucks when all this attitude comes back to bite ya! My poor mom had 4 daughters!!!

 

[Slinkytoys]

This would really scare me. You told him exactly how dangerous this would be for the chick, yet he still had to experience it. Not just the chick, be HE had to experience it. Not a young kid, at his age he can understand what you are saying. Why have to experience it? His reaction to the experience was less than stellar. Actually blaise. Yup, I would be worried. Is there any professional whose brain you could pick? I would definately file this away and watch him for further actions or escalations. To me, this doesn't sound like a "lack of common sense" issue. Yes, a lack of empathy....but why would he have to then experience the action? Does this child tease his siblings to excess? Tickle them beyond normal?
Slinky

 

[Steve_of_sandspoultry]

I would be worried about him to, If it was at my house I would be worried about myself as well and if I could control my temper when I was doing some old school "knocking some sense into him"

Steve

 

[redhen]

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You get it...

 

[SunChick]

I teach middle school age children and the younger down the grade level the better I am liking it. A lot of todays teens just don't have empathy and they are impulsive..very easily influenced by peers. The thing about the brain development is very true. Most won't start acting more responsibly until their mid-20s. As always parental support/guidance goes a long way (and a lot of my sour grapes have issues with lack of support/guidance). I have teenagers that I have taught that I would love to take home and others I would punt out the door.

A lot of kids learn from life experiences. Science research is proving that students actually retain lessons better when they go through an activity that engages them or gives them that experience rather than just hearing or reading about it. His reaction or lack of empathy is typical teenager I wouldnt' get too worried unless he starts going out of his way to create chaos or dangerous situations on purpose. Some kids are still developing their emotions, its not cool or tough to seem to worried in front of mom at times. Some kids just try things because you warned them against doing it. Each one is different. Exasperating! lol

 

[Jkioneil]

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it does scare me. there are some learning disabilities and seems substatially younger than he is. that is why he lives with us. we are tryig to get him through school. his reading writing etc.. way below grade level. when he got here he could not define a noun or verb.

this weekend we were supposed to go to seattle and because of all this my husband had to stay home to watch the animals becasue the 16 year old was out of town. we could not trust the him to watch them. i was a little bummed. also date night was supposed to be tonight but i cant leave him in charge of the younger kiddos and so we cant go. our 16 year old daughter is still gone with grandma or we would leave them all with her. she is the opposite. but it is her personality too.

he does not tease at all, he is simple minded not mean as a rule. he does not think things through. his identity is undifferenciated. he relys on others thoughts to define his own...That scares me too. we work very hard trying to develop his critical thinking but i dont know how successful we really are. god help him he tries.

 

[Slinkytoys]

How does your 16 yrs. old daughter feel about taking on this responsibility? Or is she just watching the other kiddos? Have you had your son evaluated? If he is easily led, I would be very choosy about who he is allowed to befriend. It sounds like your lives will be very impacted by these problems, I sure wish you well. It's not easy to adapt to special needs family members, but is necessary. Best wishes
Slinky