Help I'm starting to hate my puppy!!!

[ButteCA]

I’m putting my money on lab mix,collie mix,or some type of bird dog mix but any breed of puppy is going to behave this way until the hits 2 Years.

 

[cassie]

I think you need to find a good home for her. Either she is the wrong breed for you or you are not prepared to handle a puppy or both. What on earth happened to the other puppies?

 

[jak2002003]

OK guys. Thanks for all the helpful advise. It is really appreciated. We had to go out and do some shopping... and I have calmed down since this morning and feel happier now.

I will try to answer some of your questions:

What breed is she? And how old?


When my dog was a puppy she whined like no tomorrow all. the. time.

She is a Chihuahua mix dog.
She is 13 weeks old.
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She NEVER whines. She basically barks really loudly constantly and fast with growling... which then turn into SCREAMS... if she does not get her way... sounds like I am killing her.

did you get her from her litter or someplace else?
you say this is your 5th puppy. What became of the others???

She was bought from a pet market. There were 4 others from her litter. They were all cared for really well.. very clean and had toys and water and big pen. I handled and played with them.. and she seemed to have a nice calm temperament and not dominant as she kept rolling onto her back for me to rum her tummy.

Sounds like it also probably needs more exercise and structure. It should be fed on a schedule in order to get it to go to the bathroom on a schedule. Some pups need lots of exercise or else they will be destructive.

Well.. she gets free run of a large garden....2 X 20 minute walks off lead a day, and has crazy hours of play with the other dog.. wrestling and charging around in circles. Plus each morning and evening I play with her with tug toys, balls, and teach her basic commands.. she knows sit, stay, roll over and give a paw already. Also my friend brings his 2 small dogs around to paly with her at least once a week.

Puppies are cute and we humans laugh and ooh and aww when they do cute things even if they are bad things. Consequently, the puppy will continue to do it because it got a good reaction. Don't let her train you. I'm surprised she actually dirtied her crate, dogs usually do not potty where they eat or sleep. I would make sure there is nothing medically wrong there.

Believe me I never have laughed when she is latched onto my other dogs neck or backside.. or when she is trying to bite me when I hold her. I have never laughed when she is screaming in her cate for several hours non stop either.

Train her ,
Or rehome her ,
You should be the “adult”
Do the right thing

I don't want to rehome her. I am aware I am an adult. Sorry, but I did not find you comment helpful and I did nothing to make me feel better about the situation... as I am feeling very upset already.

What on earth happened to the other puppies?

???? Died of old age. Still have one of the other dogs now.. she is 8. My latest one died at age 9 from cancer. The other 2 died of age related diseases about 10 years ago. I did not buy 5 puppies all at the same time. I am over 50 years old now.

 

[Pugsabi]

I'm sorry, this must be difficult for you.
Chihuahuas can have lots of mental health issues due to irresponsible breeding. Because they are so small and people tend to treat them as toys rather than dogs, breeder's usually don't do the selective breeding to get good traits like in other breeds. There's a reason they tend to have a bad reputation.
I'm not saying there is no hope, but it might be extremely hard to get the sweet loving pet, you wanted when you got her.
I can tell that you really care for your animals and I would just like to say that it's not your fault if she doesn't rehabilitate like she should.

 

[Shezadandy]

We had a kitten we adopted from the humane society who was a lot like this. I've raised plenty of them- and that one was a nightmare. As a tiny kitten- relentlessly attacked- and I mean attacked our older cats. He wouldn't sit still for more than 20 seconds with people in the room - and tore around the place like it was a derby track.

We did everything we could - played him til he just about dropped multiple times a day- etc and so on- and I'm sad to say the behavior never improved- he made us all miserable- and he went back to the humane society to find a new home. We were not the right home for him. On his paperwork I outlined everything that we observed so the next people would have full disclosure.

It broke my heart to take him back. Many tears were shed. He did find a new home- pretty quickly - and I watched to see if he was returned, and he wasn't.

The moral of the story is sometimes an animal just isn't the right fit. Clearly puppy isn't happy - all that barking and other behavior are not signs of a contented dog- and puppy doesn't seem to be bringing you joy. If you insist on keeping puppy- see if you can find a good trainer- check with friends and any dog related websites you might frequent. The current situation doesn't seem to be good for you or puppy, and you both deserve to be happy fulfilled individuals.

 

[snow5164]

“Chihuahuas can have lots of mental health issues due to irresponsible breeding. “

This is so true,don’t feel bad if you rehome her, a home with no other dogs might be just what is needed. Not all situations work out as we planned , obviously you’ve done everything you can.
Good luck

 

[Tesumph]

OK guys. Thanks for all the helpful advise. It is really appreciated. We had to go out and do some shopping... and I have calmed down since this morning and feel happier now.

I will try to answer some of your questions:

She is a Chihuahua mix dog.
She is 13 weeks old.
​

She NEVER whines. She basically barks really loudly constantly and fast with growling... which then turn into SCREAMS... if she does not get her way... sounds like I am killing her.




She was bought from a pet market. There were 4 others from her litter. They were all cared for really well.. very clean and had toys and water and big pen. I handled and played with them.. and she seemed to have a nice calm temperament and not dominant as she kept rolling onto her back for me to rum her tummy.



Well.. she gets free run of a large garden....2 X 20 minute walks off lead a day, and has crazy hours of play with the other dog.. wrestling and charging around in circles. Plus each morning and evening I play with her with tug toys, balls, and teach her basic commands.. she knows sit, stay, roll over and give a paw already. Also my friend brings his 2 small dogs around to paly with her at least once a week.



Believe me I never have laughed when she is latched onto my other dogs neck or backside.. or when she is trying to bite me when I hold her. I have never laughed when she is screaming in her cate for several hours non stop either.



I don't want to rehome her. I am aware I am an adult. Sorry, but I did not find you comment helpful and I did nothing to make me feel better about the situation... as I am feeling very upset already.



???? Died of old age. Still have one of the other dogs now.. she is 8. My latest one died at age 9 from cancer. The other 2 died of age related diseases about 10 years ago. I did not buy 5 puppies all at the same time. I am over 50 years old now.

Sorry you’re going through this. Don’t take the comments personally, it’s hard to judge a persons character from one post and some are less tactful than others.

I agree, this just might not be a good fit. That’s no ones fault, truly it isn’t. When an animal, any animal, genuinely gives you grief and pisses you off to the point of ruining your day, whether it be a nasty cockerel or a mental puppy, you have to take a step back and ask what you really want. Consider what you’ll do if this puppy grows up to be an unsound dog who you can never 100% trust. Put up with it, hate her for 10+ years?

That being said, a lot of this IS normal puppy behavior, just intensified. Some puppies are worse than others. My sister has one right now that totally disrespects human authority and will playfully run away and bark at you when you tell her to do anything. A lot of that is because she’s a pitbull mutt who bulldozes their sweet lab, and also because my sister and her husband know nothing about dog training and how to curb the dominating behavior of their obnoxious dog. The only hope there is that she grows out of it because they never commit to my advice, although they constantly ask for help.

If you’re dead set on keeping this puppy, then you should consider obedience training. It’s as helpful to the owner as it is to the dog. I won’t repeat all the good advice given, but a firm schedule and consistency is key. Hell, my 11 year old golden pooped in the house recently because I forgot to take him out at his regular time. Thankfully, he’s a goofball and I could immediately tell because he came to find me with a guilty “I messed up” face.

If you do decide to give this dog up to someone with an unnatural amount of patience and time, then please consider adopting from a rescue. Not only is rescuing a dog rewarding and literally saving a life, but often you can better choose based on personality and your household’s needs. Bonus, if you adopt an adult, you totally skip the annoying screaming/peeing/furniture destroying puppy stage.

 

[jak2002003]

Thank you ALL for the advise.

Thankfully this afternoon has been somewhat better. I have increased her walk time to over half an hour.. and really running about to tire her out. I gave her 3 walks instead of the 2 today.

I think its like Tesumph said... a lot is normal puppy behaviour... only just super intensified... and I mean INTENSIFIED. She was really tired after the afternoon walk.. and she met 2 big dogs and she was so scared of them and bolted home lol....(don't worry we live in a super rural place with no dangerous roads between where we were and my house)…. So she was not so brave and a bully with other dogs. When we got in she ate her puppy food no problem (I fed the other dog its food outside so she could not get to it). I put her in her play pen and she did not scream.. not even a whine. But she perked up and started playing and trying to climb out and I thought we were in for trouble. However after 10 minutes she is now actually asleep.

I have decided to take a lot of your advise and I have drawn up a plan. I am going to......

1. increase the time of walks and exercising.
2. feed the dogs in different rooms.
3. keep her outside when I can't watch her 100 percent... if she is in her mega naughty and barky mood. If she is calmer I will put her in her play pen with toys near me and I am determined not to give in to the tantrums. If it gets too much I will go out.
4. When my other dog has had enough of her playing or if she gets too rough I will put the other dog outside (she loves to be outside more than inside as she likes to keep guard and go hunting insects and frogs lol)..
5. I am going to introduce her to lots of other dogs.. because I think part of the problem is my other dog is far too soft and gently and is not doing her job of correcting the puppy.

The dog that died taught my current older dog really well. She would have no messing and if the puppy stepped out of line she would tell it off and even hold it down. She would also not allow the puppy to get in her face or eat her food. But she would play with it if she was in the mood.. and be very affectionate with her if the puppy was being polite and gently. My older dog now never growls or corrects the puppy... she just gets stressed out and hides while the puppy barks at it.


I will put this plan of action for another week. If I see no improvement I will consider finding her another home. I don't care too much about the house training for now. Just got to concentrate on her behaviour first.. take one thing at a time so not to get overwhelmed.

 

[Tesumph]

Thank you ALL for the advise.

Thankfully this afternoon has been somewhat better. I have increased her walk time to over half an hour.. and really running about to tire her out. I gave her 3 walks instead of the 2 today.

I think its like Tesumph said... a lot is normal puppy behaviour... only just super intensified... and I mean INTENSIFIED. She was really tired after the afternoon walk.. and she met 2 big dogs and she was so scared of them and bolted home lol....(don't worry we live in a super rural place with no dangerous roads between where we were and my house)…. So she was not so brave and a bully with other dogs. When we got in she ate her puppy food no problem (I fed the other dog its food outside so she could not get to it). I put her in her play pen and she did not scream.. not even a whine. But she perked up and started playing and trying to climb out and I thought we were in for trouble. However after 10 minutes she is now actually asleep.

I have decided to take a lot of your advise and I have drawn up a plan. I am going to......

1. increase the time of walks and exercising.
2. feed the dogs in different rooms.
3. keep her outside when I can't watch her 100 percent... if she is in her mega naughty and barky mood. If she is calmer I will put her in her play pen with toys near me and I am determined not to give in to the tantrums. If it gets too much I will go out.
4. When my other dog has had enough of her playing or if she gets too rough I will put the other dog outside (she loves to be outside more than inside as she likes to keep guard and go hunting insects and frogs lol)..
5. I am going to introduce her to lots of other dogs.. because I think part of the problem is my other dog is far too soft and gently and is not doing her job of correcting the puppy.

The dog that died taught my current older dog really well. She would have no messing and if the puppy stepped out of line she would tell it off and even hold it down. She would also not allow the puppy to get in her face or eat her food. But she would play with it if she was in the mood.. and be very affectionate with her if the puppy was being polite and gently. My older dog now never growls or corrects the puppy... she just gets stressed out and hides while the puppy barks at it.


I will put this plan of action for another week. If I see no improvement I will consider finding her another home. I don't care too much about the house training for now. Just got to concentrate on her behaviour first.. take one thing at a time so not to get overwhelmed.

Solid plan! Beware of her learning that screaming = outside time. Maybe set some alarms or make a loose schedule: feed at this time, potty at these times, always in the pen for these periods, etc. I know that’s easier said than done.

 

[TheGoldenGirlz]

Something to consider, look up tethering. Keeping her contained is a good plan but tethering works wonders. Basically just keep her on a leash that is tied to you all the time when she isn’t in her crate. Every time you get up to go and do something, she has to move. Having her close by will help you curb bad behaviors and most of all leash training teaches a dog to respect boundaries(not pulling, chewing the leash, etc...). My puppy(11wks old when I got him, a GSD/lab/ACD/english setter) was a nightmare. He would bark 24/7 for the first week. I seriously considered bringing him back. Instead I started taking him swimming(much better on the joints of a growing pup) and kept him tethered. Within three days there was a significant change for the better. Wishing you the best!