Hi, Joellen. Although I'm new here, I've been living with chickens--mostly roos (long story)--for over ten years. I have a few questions for you, and some tips.
My first question is whether your roo was hand-raised (incubated, purchased chick, etc.) or hen-raised. I have both kinds of roos, and it's typically the hand-raised that show more "boundary issues"--makes perfect sense when you consider that "mom" wasn't constantly around to keep them in line.
That said, hand-raised roos can make perfect pets. I'll explain more below.
You may have gathered from the responses you've received thus far that attitudes towards chickens, roos in particular, can range from the "omg, I've found my soulmate" to "it's livestock." So what are you hoping for from your birds? Do you see them more as companion animals, or are they strictly an "asset" to be kept or eliminated based on circumstances? (And yes, I realize there are a range of in-between responses.) If you're new to keeping chickens, you may not even be sure yet; that's okay. You'll get advice that will want to push you in all sorts of directions, but ultimately you get to decide. (Yay!)
The first thing I'd like to point out is that roosters are as individual as any other animal we encounter (including people). One person's experience is just that, and there are a lot of variables that come into play, especially with backyard flocks. So I would take with a grain of a salt any advice that immediately declares your roo a problem.
The second thing is that growing roos (like growing children) change over time. In my experience, most roos will go through a "difficult" period that may range from mild to severe. (If you've raised a teenager, you know what I mean.) The behavior during that period is not indicative of how the roo (nor teens, thank gawd!) will ultimately turn out.
If your rooster's nipping bothers you, then you'll want to address it. Behavioral principles apply: reinforce good behavior; ignore bad behavior. (Punishment has been shown to be a lousy behavior shaper, and birds are especially sensitive to being ignored.) I have one roo who became a problem as he got older. (It used to be the case that he didn't like certain outfits, but now just about anything will set him off.) So when's he out, I carry a small broom. I don't hit him with it. I just place the broom between him and me if it looks like he's charging. So if he's being as ***, I can display the broom, but if he's being good, I can pick him up, carry him around, pet him, and give him kisses, etc.
I have another roo who will get impatient if I don't pick him up while he's out. In his case, I just endure the occasional nip or two. (He's over nine years old and a sweetie 99% of the time.)
As for the posts suggesting sexual stuff? Birds are pretty smart and can tell the difference between a human and a hen. That said, they can sometimes express excitement (the general kind) sexually. It's not a big deal and not an indicator of the decline of western civilization.
I hope some of this helps! (Obviously, I'm not in the "livestock" camp, but my sense is that you aren't either.) Enjoy your roo.
