HOLY CROW my day is BETTER..I'm in SHOCK..

[Scoop]

Darn if we lived closer together you wouldn't be sitting at home tonight! We'd have a girl's night out at a good restaurant!

 

[Momagain1]

well; I just called my MIL and said thanks, but I'll pass...
we dont have takeout here except a subway..so nothing yummy really..
Jeron would be here due to him having to go to church drama practice..tonight..and tomorrow a/m

I have two ladies I called up and asked if they wanted to do something; they said nope..(figured `` which is why I never ask anyone)
so really..why does she need to come get them?? I'd just be sitting here doing nothing..or cleaning..
and after practice tomorrow for my son I'd have to drive to drop him off at her house for the day..

so forget it..and yes..I broke down and had my pity party moment and got angry..then sad..then really depressed..now I just
feel stupid..

 

[chicmom]

You know, I do know how you feel, regarding having some good gal pals. But, you can go make friends.....Really! I've made a super duper friend, who I actually met on this website! She was sweet enough to say "Hi"! And we're from the same little town. So I just made the effort! It does take some effort......

It's so much easier just to stay lonely though.....Believe me, I know.......

Another thing happened about a month ago. I ran into a high school friend at the grocery store! (And I graduated in 1982, so I'm 46). I've been outta school a long time! I almost let her go by without saying a word. But I gathered up my courage and said "HEY CRYSTAL!" Now, it's like I've got another good friend. So we do things together now!

It is sooo much easier to stay lonely......I know......

Maybe theres another gal at church that you kind of like, but you're a bit shy.....Why not make the effort. And if they can't get together, like your friends you called, maybe it was too short notice and you need to plan something....

YOU CAN DO IT!

Take it from me, a previously lonely person......My husband works 12 hour shifts every other weekend on Fri, Sat & Sun. I know what it's like to feel lonely......I just do something about it now!

Sincerely,
Sharon

 

[Momagain1]

OK I think I need to be in a psych ward...

I just called my MIL back and said just come get them..there is NO reason why I should punish them because I cant
go anywhere...or do anything...

like I said..she RARELY if ever, offers to watch the kiddos..this is a rare thing she's doing..because i'm not the "SIL"..
whom she watches kids for every week..I was really feeling down because I am so lonely and miss hubby so much
and jus tneed time with him...instead of looking at it from a diff. perspective to be a blessing to my children..

they never get time alone with her..so it'll be a wonderful night for them..and that makes me happy

 

[bluesub]

Good for you! It is hard to remember how to have alone time just for you, but you will be ok. Maybe there is a friend far away that you could call and talk to? When is the last time you had an uninterrupted phone call? And you are right, the kids will have a great time with grandma...

 

[justbugged]

I truly understand about not having a friend that you can call up and say lets go do something fun with. About 10 years ago I managed to loose 3 BBF within about 3 years. I still am not quite sure what I did that was so unforgivable. I know that I was willing to forgive anything they did. I now find that I am not willing to risk my heart and soul anymore. So when people ask if I have a friend that I could call, I just say no, and that I have no friends. I think it's sad that at 51 years old, I find myself on the outside looking in.

I do have my pets, and I am self entertaining so there has to be something interesting going on between my ears.

i am happy that you sent the kids off the grandma's house for awhile anyway. Sometimes it is nice to have a moment to yourself.

 

[wildorchid053]

i am alot like you. i don't have a best friend.. it is hard when hubby is such a loner and won't make friends. even when we lived in a neighborhood he would never go to fourth of july parties or barbques. we are both very shy and now live in the boonies so it is hard to find a friend. i find i spend most of my days with daughter and her friends and kids. i don't talk much so that also makes it hard. but i enjoy company with people around. grew up in a large family and always had best friends till i got married and moved away.. anyone want to be my neighbor? lol. i grew up in the age where you just walked into your friends house and would sit and have coffee or tea and chat the day away then go home and make dinner for when hubby came home.. i miss those days. now that i am going to be 59 this month there aren't too many older gals to meet.

 

[booker81]

Glad you called her back!!

Get some Ben and Jerry's and watch a movie, or just sit on BYC and read and read, and revel in the peace!! Everyone needs some quiet time

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

Quote:
Friends don't magically appear--they are cultivated. Figure out which one of these ladies seem like they might be up for some fun and start inviting. Worst case scenario you decide not to pursue a closer friendship.

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

When you pick the kids up, ask her if she can watch them on such and so date and time as you and dh have plans. And then make those plans.