Honest with your spouse??? or not always

[DuckLady]

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+ 50 million!!!

I used to explain over and over that "yes they took your card. That sensible bank sees an overdraft fee goldmine in you. Why wouldn't they?"

I take care of the finances because I do it very very well.
He mows the lawn and is retired because he does that very very well.

 

[emvickrey]

He works and hands me his check. I deposit it and decide who gets what every week. I always tell him whats left and what has to be paid. Although he rarely remembers because he completely leaves all that stress up to me to take care of. He has a bank card and asks me what's in there. Although I am honest with him with what gets spent. Other than bills, human and animal food that I take care of he spends whats left. He won't even look at the bank register. I could be dishonest but I don't.

"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you"

 

[Goose and Fig]

I handle all the money stuff- and I totally suck at it. I'm horrible with money. I can't save anything. Not like I'm out blowing it on stupid stuff- I've had the same clothes & shoes for 4+ years, but there's just never seems to be enough $$. DH isn't any good with finances either, but he's gone such long hours so I have to do it. Maybe someday I'll get my back child support and we can wipe the slate clean.........dream on Amy!

 

[lockedhearts]

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Since I lost my unemployment things got really tight here, but we make due. I shop smart and even though we have a laughable savings I try. I finally linked my savings to my Paypal, I transfer a little here and there when I can. I also use cash and my Bank Card is simply and ATM card. I am not great with money but do the best I can. Bills are paid, albeit sometimes I have to juggle and hubby has enough to make it through the week and we get by.

 

[justmeandtheflock]

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+ 50 million!!!

I used to explain over and over that "yes they took your card. That sensible bank sees an overdraft fee goldmine in you. Why wouldn't they?"

I take care of the finances because I do it very very well.
He mows the lawn and is retired because he does that very very well.

Glad I'm not the only one with one of those

Mine is good at building me stuff and doesn't complain too much about my animals so I think I'll keep him

 

[PineappleMama]

DH does have one account that I'm not on... it's where he deposits his FAFSA checks. Those in turn he uses to pay his student loans. NO reason at all for me to have anything to do with it.

Major purchases aren't really an issue, since we rarely have the funds for them anyways. But tax return time is when that might come up and we do talk about it... one year it was an $800 monitor for his computer... the thing is freaking huge... he's the envy of his peers... but it's actually a TV and the whole family watches movies on it. We have never bought a new TV, so after 10 yrs of marriage we finally did AND bought one that doubles as a monitor -which he NEEDED- to be able to do his coursework.

Then again, this is from the woman who asked for and got for B-day/Christmas Lamps, Food Processor, Deep Fryer, Blender... etc. No wonder my MIL thinks I'm nuts.

 

[lockedhearts]

I just don't get not being honest, isn't that what marriage or any partnership for that matter is all about? Equality 50/50 and all that. It took me several years and a lot of broken hearts to learn that but how can you seriously say you care about someone and then turn around and essentially lie to them about things. The person I was thinking of when all of this started talks about their "reputation" and how they want to "make the right impression" but then they turn around and lie to their spouse and others about things.
Maybe I am wrong but I was taught that honesty is the best policy. Things get tight from time to time and my animals still need to eat, I have been honest with my Feed Store and Hay Man and they understand and hold checks for me. They don't think any less of me and if the tables were reversed I would rather someone ask me to hold a check rather than give me a check knowing it would likely not clear. Maybe I am living in a fantasy world but I just don't understand not being honest.

 

[saddina]

We're honest, on all fronts.

We were buds for a few years before we dated, he'd already knew what he was in for (including watching me eviserate his BF after I found him cheating right after the wedding). No point in sugar coating or pretending when they already know how crazy you are.

When it comes to cash, I do all the long term planning (IRA's, retirement funds, tracking the markets), he does the monthly expenses, paying the bills that come in. We budget together and we'll be enjoying the retirement we're saving for together.

 

[agnes_day]

my husband works, and keeps all the money...if i need/want any money, i just ask and if we have it, he gives it to me..if not, he tells me why and so forth. when tax time comes, we sit down and list what each of us wants to buy and then we go from there. it works so much better this way because honestly, ill blow it if we have it so he never tells me the exact dollar amount we have.

 

[Dar]

we both handle the finances.

i let him know what needs to be paid of my bills he tells me what needs to be paid of his bills, our pays get pooled and bills get paid

we dont hide anything!