I weigh exactly the same as I did the day we married. But, there were some major weight gains in there! I had two kids and it took me a a couple of years to ditch that last 20 !! I did not do major diets, I just ate less of what I wanted and beefed up my activity level. But, over the last few years DH has packed on a good 30 pounds. And I really don't like it. Finally, yesterday he spotted himself in a full length mirror in a store and it was like a light suddenly went off. Now he has decided that he is fat. He didn't notice till now?? So, he wants to start losing, but has really bad eating habits. Because he works shift this days, he does not eat most of his meals with us so I am not the one preparing his meals. I try to make normal dinners and pack him a plate of food, but I am pretty sure he is heavily subsidizing this with take out. What can I say to encourage him without sounding like I am criticizing him? How do I help him without sounding like I agree that he is fat?? (I do though.) I really want him to lose this weight, but I know if I am not careful I'll send him in the wrong direction.