how do you bare the grief?

[caspernc]

My friend just lost her son in a car crash. I'm having a hard time with it. How do you bury a child!

 

[equine chick]

O.M.G. I am so very sorry. My heart goes out to your friend. She will need you now more than ever.

 

[Baymule]

Losing a child is a wound that never heals, you just learn to live with it. Be a friend to your friend, she needs it.

 

[Nat the Brat]

Tragic.

 

[debilorrah]

What a horrid tragedy. Your friend will need you more than you probably realize right now. I don't think a parent ever gets over the loss of child.

 

[Sierra pachie bars]

Just be there for her. I have a very dear friend who lost her mother and her niece on Christmas eve. Right after they left her house. I waited before sending a condolence card just a bit. But I did send one. I also send her notes and cards here and there just to let her know I am thinking of her. I do not think a person ever gets over the loss, they just learn to keep going. I am often so lost for words, I cried and cried Christmas day for my friend and her loss. Just always let her know you are there for her , always will be. And if she ever needs to just cry , your shoulder is always there.

 

[jojo@rolling acres farm]

I'm so very sorry! I can't imagine the pain. Nothing you can do or say will take her pain away - you just have to be there for her as she bears this horrible burden. This just happened to friends of ours - life altering and painful.

 

[JulieNKC]

I'm so sorry. I lost my daughter in 2007. It still hurts, but eventually she'll have good days again. Just be there if she needs someone to talk to, especially if she needs someone to talk about her child with. That's what I have the hardest time with still. Talking about Madelyn is uncomfortable for everyone else it seems, but it HELPS me to talk about my daughter, so if she starts a conversation about her child after the fresh grief is done, talk with her.
Praying for you and her and her family.

 

[kathyinmo]

Oh my.

It just isn't suppose to happen this way, is it? I am awfully sorry for your friend, as well as for you. I wish I could do more than just offer you a cyber hug.

My condolences to you and your friend.

 

[eenie114]

Oh, I'm so sorry.

Let me know if there's anything I can do to help. You helped me, I'd love to help you, though I don't know how I could.