Just be there for her. I have a very dear friend who lost her mother and her niece on Christmas eve. Right after they left her house. I waited before sending a condolence card just a bit. But I did send one. I also send her notes and cards here and there just to let her know I am thinking of her. I do not think a person ever gets over the loss, they just learn to keep going. I am often so lost for words, I cried and cried Christmas day for my friend and her loss. Just always let her know you are there for her , always will be. And if she ever needs to just cry , your shoulder is always there.
I'm so very sorry! I can't imagine the pain. Nothing you can do or say will take her pain away - you just have to be there for her as she bears this horrible burden. This just happened to friends of ours - life altering and painful.
I'm so sorry. I lost my daughter in 2007. It still hurts, but eventually she'll have good days again. Just be there if she needs someone to talk to, especially if she needs someone to talk about her child with. That's what I have the hardest time with still. Talking about Madelyn is uncomfortable for everyone else it seems, but it HELPS me to talk about my daughter, so if she starts a conversation about her child after the fresh grief is done, talk with her.
Praying for you and her and her family.
It just isn't suppose to happen this way, is it? I am awfully sorry for your friend, as well as for you. I wish I could do more than just offer you a cyber hug.