How do you deal with a death?

[Mermaid]

I had a similar situation when I was in fifth grade. A boy I knew had both of his parents killed in a car crash the previous week. When he finally came back to school, one of the other boys in the class gave him a card where he had drawn two ghosts in crayon. Like, the "sheet" style ghost. And under wrote "mom and dad still love you". It was kinda shocking at first but the boy really appreciated it... guess that wasn't advice, but it just reminded me of that.

 

[PotterWatch]

What do you think of the idea of sending a card to the kids from my kids? I want to somehow acknowledge their loss without making them feel they have to talk about it at playgroup. I was thinking that if my boys send a card, the girls will know that we are aware of what happened and that we care, without them being required to give a response.

 

[chickens4me]

I don't have more advice than has already been given, but I think you are great to care so much about those young people so much & their feelings.

 

[Sjisty]

I think you should just sit back and let them be themselves. If your children want to give their sympathies, that's great. Otherwise, let them just be with the girls. Maybe the girls will want to talk about their dad or maybe not. Kids will find their own way around the subject naturally. Just let the children find their own way.

Good for you for offering help and support! Too many people disappear when tragedy hits because it makes them too uncomfortable. I lost a lot of friends when my son died because they didn't know how to handle my emotions so they just didn't call or visit.

 

[AHappychick]

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that sounds like a good idea.