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How many more things can go wrong??

Discussion in 'Family Life - Stories, Pictures & Updates' started by chicknerd, Jun 28, 2010.

  1. chicknerd

    chicknerd Songster

    Apr 28, 2010

    Just need to vent a little. This was suppose to be my fun summer with my new baby chicks, last son going off to college etc etc. Well everything has been turned upside down.

    First of all the oil spill. DH was asked to help so he is off most of the time there. Unpaid I might add.

    Then MIL decided no more intervention to her diabetes. She has moved up here and I am now her primary care giver. I love her to pieces but she is a major taker. Expects everyone to be on call 24/7 and to jump immediately. She has been in and out of the hospital 3 times the past two weeks, leaving because she doesn't trust any of them. She wants no amputations so we respect that, but she needs some basic care. She leaves Wed from the hospital for the last time.

    Been trying to 3 months to get my dad out of his nursing home to my brother's home. We have arranged care there but they(brother's family) have been postponing for various reasons. I just got a call from the nursing home asking my why my father is not picked up yet. Weill I finally get in touch with my SIL and find out my 20 yo niece has been suicidal for the past 4 days and obviously that is a greater priority. Her real mom tried to commit suicide a few weeks ago. Great.

    My car broke down permanently Friday too while I was trying to car for my MIL. I feel like I have a ton a bricks on my shoulders right now.

    My only peace is going into the bathroom to let my new baby chicks (4-6 weeks old) out of their rubbermaid brooders to run around the bathroom for a while. We haven't built a coop for them yet due to the chaos. The other coop is too small to add them and they are too young for the older group yet. So I go in there for 10-15 minutes a couple times a day and just watch or hold the chicks. Today I just didn't care. I let them out in the morning, slid the door closed, and let them go at it in the bathroom. Everything dangerous was out of the room. They had a blast. I could hear them happily chatting most of the day. It only took about 1 minutes to round them up into their clean brooders and clean and sanitize the floor and shower stall. But for a few minutes the bricks were lifted.

    3 months ago if anyone had told me I would have chickens or that they could relax me so much, I would have laughed.
  2. chickeypoo

    chickeypoo The Enabler

    Feb 4, 2007
    i am so sorry you have to deal with all this. i suggest taking more than the 15 mins to yourself to "get away" from it all. your MIL sounds like a major downer though. and why woudl you want your father at your brothers house when it sounds like he doesn't want him there?

    anyway, i know how wonderful chicks/chickens can make a person feel. some days i think that's all that's holding me on. i love my birds. i love the eggs i get from them. makes me feel important and better cuz i don't have to buy them LOL:) i hope your days start to look up. someone else should be helping with your MIL, not just you.

    many many hugs. and you can alway vent to us. we are here for that [​IMG]
  3. Slinkytoys

    Slinkytoys Songster

    Jun 22, 2009
    Black Forest
    Oh honey, I've been there and done that. [​IMG] It's not easy, but this too shall pass. Take a deep breath, enjoy the fuzzy butts and know that you are doing right by your family. My elderly in-laws have now passed on, but it was rough couple of years. Even tho my hubby took early retirement to help out, it was hard watching them deteriorate and be helpless to do more than love them and see that they got the best of care. More [​IMG] to you.
  4. redhen

    redhen Kiss My Grits... Premium Member

    May 19, 2008
    Western MA
  5. Camelot Farms

    Camelot Farms Chickenista

    This is all I got.... (((hugs))
  6. sfw2

    sfw2 Global Menace

    [​IMG] Chicken therapy is a wonderful thing.

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