How rude!

[Camelot Farms]

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.... then you probably arent a home visitor for a human service org... *giggle, giggle*

And, as a home visitor, I have been in some houses where I truly wouldnt want to take off my shoes either but I always, always either wipe them super good before entering or at least asked what their preference was. I had some houses where I would change shoes before getting back in my car and bag up the ones that I was wearing. So, I know that these folks probably have had some bad experiences but if thats the job that they chose, then you get the good with the bad.

I think part of my annoyance is knowing that these same people will be out there in my community with the families that I have worked with, treating them the exact same way. I'm a die-hard-advocate for treating people with respect and I am just soooo annoyed today. gah!

 

[Camelot Farms]

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Can I wait until after I get the services that I want for DD to pick a fight with her?

 

[redhen]

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Can I wait until after I get the services that I want for DD to pick a fight with her?

LOL.. well, i guess so...

Honestly though, I have case workers in and out of my house all the time... (foster care)..they know to call ahead of time before a visit and if they are bringing anyone with them they need to call ahead and ask me...its just common manners...
I'd maybe suggest (in a nice way..) that you arent comfortable with her bringing interns with her... you'd prefer it to just be her..
And see how she reacts to you...
I bet she will be fine... they must hear it all the time..

 

[duck walk]

totally rude on both counts...sounds like the "intern" has more to learn than just his job...maybe some basic manners...I would have to address the issue up front and directly...he never would have got a boot on my carpet...once upon a time I was meek and mellow and a doormat...I gave it up...I find I am much happier...

 

[Camelot Farms]

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Can I wait until after I get the services that I want for DD to pick a fight with her?

LOL.. well, i guess so...

Honestly though, I have case workers in and out of my house all the time... (foster care)..they know to call ahead of time before a visit and if they are bringing anyone with them they need to call ahead and ask me...its just common manners...
I'd maybe suggest (in a nice way..) that you arent comfortable with her bringing interns with her... you'd prefer it to just be her..
And see how she reacts to you...
I bet she will be fine... they must hear it all the time..

Since this was just for a referral, she probably wont be returning so in hindsite, I should have mentioned it to her while she was here. I think I was so darned stunned that I was speechless (imagine that...lol...)

Interestingly both the Worker and the Intern were quite young. He is probably 20-21 and she is maybe 22-23. I wonder why it is that colleges (to my knowledge) dont require a course on how to have a successful home visit including a section on what to do and what NOT to do.

I used to teach a post-degree credential course through Cornell University in NY and one whole 10 hour segment was on exactly that. It was a great experience!

There are lots of great home visitors out there and for those of you who would NEVER bring mud into a home or a stranger to a sensitive visit....THANK YOU!

 

[redhen]

Yeah..I've gotten some young ones also... they really should have a house manners 101 class for these home visiting jobs...

 

[rancher hicks]

Sorry to say this but your first mistake was getting them involved. It's like I tell my kids when you've raised a few then you can tell me how to raise kids. When will people realize that preventing kids from going to the school of hard knocks is not the answer. Sometimes ya gotta let'em get burned a few times before they realize just how hot that stove is. Show me a person who says they've got all the answers and I'll show you a person who is living in la, la land.

 

[Camelot Farms]

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'scuse me? I hardly think its a mistake to ask for help for a child who suffers from a mental health issue. Not asking for help would be a mistake.

 

[redhen]

You're a good mommy..you're doing whats best for your child..

 

[BigBadCryBaby]

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Absolutely. Don't let anyone second guess you, they're not in your shoes. As far as the workers go, rude and dumb. But, hey, what's new?