How rude!

[SarahBeth9394]

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'scuse me? I hardly think its a mistake to ask for help for a child who suffers from a mental health issue. Not asking for help would be a mistake.

I agree that if you need to ask for help you should. It just grates me though that in order to get help you have to pretty much have all of your privacy invaded. Then to top it off they were that rude. Yikes.

 

[6chickens in St. Charles]

Ugh!!

Sorry to hear your dtr is suffering! That's hard! When my son started with anxiety/OCD the doctor checked for strep infection. I asked why? He said to check for PANDAS. In our flipped out state of mind, I thought he had gone bonkers (little black n white bears?!). But it was a good idea to check, afterall. Here's a link, just in case it could be useful:

http://intramural.nimh.nih.gov/pdn/web.htm

Good luck, I hope it gets better soon!

 

[SarahBeth9394]

Ok I gotta give you the flip side of the people who don't wear shoes in there house. Well one of my sil's in a clean freak and I mean to the point of it being a mental illness. One day my other sil was a block from her house and her daughter was about to pee her pants. So they called sil 1 to ask if my niece could use her bathroom. Sil 1 said sure. Bare in mind that my niece didn't walk through the dirt and she always wiped her shoes on the mat. So when they got there sil 1 opened the door and she had laid a path of bath towels from the door all the way down the hall to the bathroom. Of course those had to be washed afterwards.

 

[Penturner]

I personally evaluate how professional and competent people are from everything they do. they cannot carry on a professional adult conversation in which they are attentive and making eye contact. They have not gained the skills of basic manners. and they have not gained the skill to speak clearly. Are you sure you want to find out how skilled they are at more important things like therapy? I would be getting in contact with their superiors and finding out what can be done to get some "Qualified" Help.

 

[Camelot Farms]

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That is a good point Penturner. In this case, this agency is part of a 'team' which provides the ultimate service of in-home therapy. Her agency does alot of referring which involves the application process. Other agencies are involved on other levels and then there is the actual service provider which in this case is a great program. I have actually referred some of the families that I work with to them for services.

Its certainly humbling to be on the other side of the table at this point.

 

[SarahBeth9394]

Well I'll tell you what. I don't care what buzz words (team, co-op, great program, etc.) they use. Penturner makes a great point. I once had a "qualified", "professional", "not a youngin in the field" tell me to let my autistic daughter run around in dirty panties till she didn't like them anymore and that would help her get potty trained because some "Expert" said so. I told her that was the most ridiculous thing I had ever heard. Dirty pants get changed because it can cause rashes and infections. I wouldn't do that to my normal children let alone my autistic child. Uh excuse me but that would be considered "neglect". Experts aren't necessarily experts.

 

[chickinlickin]

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LOL.. well, i guess so...

Honestly though, I have case workers in and out of my house all the time... (foster care)..they know to call ahead of time before a visit and if they are bringing anyone with them they need to call ahead and ask me...its just common manners...
I'd maybe suggest (in a nice way..) that you arent comfortable with her bringing interns with her... you'd prefer it to just be her..
And see how she reacts to you...
I bet she will be fine... they must hear it all the time..

Since this was just for a referral, she probably wont be returning so in hindsite, I should have mentioned it to her while she was here. I think I was so darned stunned that I was speechless (imagine that...lol...)

Interestingly both the Worker and the Intern were quite young. He is probably 20-21 and she is maybe 22-23. I wonder why it is that colleges (to my knowledge) dont require a course on how to have a successful home visit including a section on what to do and what NOT to do.

I used to teach a post-degree credential course through Cornell University in NY and one whole 10 hour segment was on exactly that. It was a great experience!

There are lots of great home visitors out there and for those of you who would NEVER bring mud into a home or a stranger to a sensitive visit....THANK YOU!

Boy, we are sure in a sad state of affairs when there has to be a college course on being respectful and considerate when you visit somebody's house. I've not had a minute of college and was taught better than that by the time I was 8....

If there is one thing that grinds me, it's somebody being rude.

I'm not sure how I'd handle this...I might have told the Worker right up front that I wasn't comfortable discussing my case with the intern. .....But, I think I would call the Worker's supervisor and suggest that they may want to consider a policy of calling ahead to okay it before bringing an intern to a visit and that even though I really didn't have a problem with it, some people may not be comfortable with the situation. Who know's, maybe somebody was supposed to call, and just didn't.... but, they need to be made aware of how it could create an uncomfortable situation. Just my 2 cents. Hope it all works out for your DD.

 

[silkydragon]

my friends dad used to make ppl take there shoes off at the door then i noticed 1 kid always had his shoes on as he started to take them off my friends dad yelled at him and i said how come every1 else has to take there shoes off and he said the kids feet smell beyond horrid and i laughed

 

[ChicknJ]

The dirty shoes would sure have ticked me off, but I realize you are trying to get your DD the help you think she needs... kudos to you and I wish you the best. The part about the intern makes the hair on my neck stand up. As a intern with ANY college he should have been wearing a clearly legible name tag with his name and afiliation (college) and you should have been asked prior to any visit to your house if you are willing to have an intern there. I would call the college and ask for the dept chair of whatever program he is in and advise them of the total lack of professionalism was displayed by a student in their program. We are required to get a patients permission before we allow a student nurse, physical or resp therapist etc to even enter a patients room. They were totally out of line.

ok Kim, here's to your whole family

, yous guys are good folk !