How to handle seeing my father agian...

[ozark hen]

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you will only hurt yourself if you handle this in anger or some sort of revenge. You will be the bigger person and you will have some pride in how you handled this. Good luck to you. I have been there done it both ways so I speak from experience.

the younger we are the more we think of revenge don't we?

 

[random]

yeah...sounds to me like hes a stranger...just another face in the crowd! so thats how u treat him....if some stranger were there and they werent too nice u'd be polite cuz of the whole emotional thing and let it slide...so do that for yourself in this situation too...hes just a person u dont know that happens to know ur uncle...be polite but stick to ur lot...afterall...i wouldnt want to be consoled from a stranger at a difficult time like that...if he decides to step up however and be ur dad...u need to be the wonderful adult uve grown into without his help and accept his apology...we are human and make mistakes...just remember, careful what u say cuz ur not the only 1 there and ur not the only 1 hurting...be respectful of others in pain too....ull be fine!

 

[pdsavage]

yeah im just gonna ignore him,just like he did to all of us.
I dont want to start anything and have no feelings one way or the other for him.ill talk to the rest of my family and he will be what he wanted to to be to me,my kids and brothers a stranger.
Don't worry I would never dream of starting anything at a funeral.

 

[random]

sounds like uve good a good handle on things then lil buddy! good luck!