Hurt beyond words

[feather and mountain man]

It happens to me a lot! I don't care for fair weather friends either. I live with and love my best friends,my DH, my FIL, my 4 kids, my chickens, dogs. They are what is really important. So when I'm feeling down about something I go to them for love and support. I bet if you look around your house you will find your best friends too. Even if you have to get down on your knees to reach there hugs.

 

[debilorrah]

Terri, if you can get to my age count all you close friends on one hand you are luckier than most. Me? I have 2 that I know beyond a shadow of a doubt will be there for me. And that is almost 50 years of life on earth.

It is really, really hard when your so called friends treat you badly, but stick up for yourself and say NO MORE. Keep the ones that are true to you and forget the rest.

 

[Dar]

Robin'sBrood :

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thanks Robin... what are you doing next week?..lol​

 

[debilorrah]

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thanks Robin... what are you doing next week?..lol

If I were closer I would take you, wait til you were out of recovery and bring you cheeseburgers. It's just how I roll.

 

[ChickenWisperer]

That's why I plan to get my DVM. I've never had a four legged (or two legged & winged) REAL friend walk out on me when I needed them most. Not even when I was to blame.


I know how you feel. In highschool, only a few months after being told I had Crohns I had one of my "best friends" tell me that I wouldn't be sick if I didn't want to be. My bandmates said I did't care, that I was never there for them when I had never missed a competition or a practice. "Friends" never asked me how I was feeling, or how things were going.

You just have to dust yourself off, and look at the situation. You were there for them, when they needed you - you did your part in the friendship. You did everything you could, that you were supposed to do. YOU are the better person. And in the end, you will be the better for it. You can't let them get you down - that's what they were trying to do in the first place! The fact is, is that everyone who enters your life will hurt you at some point - some more than others. You can't shut your doors because you are afraid of getting hurt - just always keep it in the back of your mind that they will do this, unless you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that they would never hurt you.

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Couldn't agree more. I'm lucky to have one at my young age.

 

[debilorrah]

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Couldn't agree more. I'm lucky to have one at my young age.

True friends, over time, show you who they are.

 

[lovesduckies]

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Couldn't agree more. I'm lucky to have one at my young age.

True friends, over time, show you who they are.

yes they will!!

you find out who your true friends are unfortunately when bad things happen... i was beat up by ex boyfriend and went through it alone in bed with dr. pepper, cheeseballs, and twilight. i was always there for my "friends" and when that happened to me they all dropped me like a bad habit (one that's easy to drop lol). only a year and a half later i look back and i'm thankful i went through it without them cuz i might not have gotten my ducks and i wouldn't have met my wonderful friends i have now.

 

[BorderKelpie]

I am sorry.

I understand, though. Nothing like being hospitalized for 5 days over the Christmas holidays without visitors since all my 'friends' figured my other friends would visit. No one showed. One phone call. I am ever so thankful for my kids and my animals. Without them, I could prabably go days or weeks without talking to anyone. Good thing I know how to entertain myself, huh.

Terri, I am with you in spirit. I know that's not much, but it's what I got and if I lived closer to you, you would have a ride to and from plus brownies, cheetos and something bubbly to wash them down.

Love and best wishes to you!

 

[Delta1_05]

I'm probably not in the right place to comment (still at school) but I've been through a lot the past year. I thought before that I'd found friends, but last year they totally just forgot about me and it was like we didn't even know each other! Thankfully, I found new friends who I'm still close with now. They're more of the people on the outside as well, I sort of drifted away from my ex-friends as their popularity went up. I don't think I was ever destined to be one of those people.

 

[justbugged]

I can so relate. I had three women that I thought were BFFs. One was very busy, she needed to play with her dogs. I was moving across the state, and would have liked a pep talk, another one decided that she would never speak to me again. I think it was because I mentioned to her DH that sometimes she could be difficult. That was a gross understatement on a good day. I didn't care that she was somewhat difficult, because she could still be entertaining occasionally. The last one would still be friends if I had been willing to get rid of my at the time teenage son. So I would rather not have BFFs anymore.

The last 2 times I have had to go to the hospital I drove myself there. I timed things so that my DH would be flying into the city that afternoon, and he would then get a cab to the hospital and pick me up after the surgery.

I don't count on anyone, but my DH these days. Sometimes the kids will come through, but I hate to count on them for the everyday stuff. I am safer with the animals at my house.