Husband just died

[TerriLaChicks]

So sorry to hear of your loss - how devastating & having to deal w/the ex is even worse. Keeping you in our prayers.

 

[Wynette]

OH GOODNESS! I'm SO very sorry!

Please contact me if there's anything I can do...

 

[Chickie Mamma]

So sorry

 

[Karrie13]

I am sorry for your loss and everything you are going through right now. My thought's and prayers are with you and your daughter. Take one day at a time.

 

[NGT ANGL]

My deepest sympathy for your loss.

 

[bkreugar]

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I sure hope they are not pushing you out of the house already or even mentioned it. Jeez! Glad the attorney is looking over everything before actions takes place . I can understand the sleepless night.
Wish you all the best, prayers and love from all of us here on BYC!

No, but his ex-wife is a ruthless rhymes-with-witch.

Husband, Wayne, was a musician in his youth. Traveled around the Midwest and Ontario (he has jammed with the band Rush) and his ex-wife was afraid that he would leave her, so she somehow got herself pregnant (somehow without him being in the county)

. Since the child was born in wedlock, neither he nor the hospital nor his parents ever suspected anything. However, ex-wife drank while pregnant and her daughter who is close to my age is mentally handicapped and on SSI for her mental disability. So even though she is round 30, she has the mental capacity of a 10 yr old, an ill-mannered 10 yr old. Well, her mother the ex-wife is her conservator and since their own money is tight, they'll be trying to get what they can from it.

If his daughter from that marriage were responsible, I wouldn't mind so much, but she spends her SSI checks on marijuana and guys who take advantage of her. Wayne did try to help her for many years, financially and in non-financial ways, but he said he was going to stop giving money to her if she continued to spend the money on the Idiot Boyfriend of the Month. Well, after she asked for $200 to pay some bills and gave it to Boyfriend of the Month to buy CDs (claimed he was going to start a DJ business and left her shortly after) he made good on his threat. Shortly after that, Wayne got injured and had his own issues with workman's comp and medical bills so he couldn't have helped her anyway.

Again, I don't mind her having SOMETHING but after I pay Wayne's medical bills and get caught up on credit cards and whatnot, there will be almost nothing left besides the house and the truck. I need both.

Sigh. It's starting to sink in. I just feel drained right now. And I have a headache.

Wrangler about your headache, this may or may not occur to you, it is tension stress due to the situation. When my mom dies I was just 26 with a father who couldn't do ANY of the stuff neccesarry. I had a headache for a week straight I could NOT get rid off. NO painkiller would touch it. At funeral a close friend who was a doc asked how I was. Said I would be fine if nt for this headache. She said its a stress headache, won't go away for a while.

She was right, it didn't and for a long while after just having my father come into a room would set me off again.

SOOO sorry for you. Read this yesterday at a show and came home to my dh with a grateful heart. I know there are no words to help. There just aren't so sorry. Only time makes it better.

 

[Enchanted Sunrise Farms]

michickenwrangler, i haven't read through every post but glad to hear you spoke with an attorney. i know there is a list in each state of who is the next of kin or heir in case of death without a will. i think it's the same in most all states, and the wife is always at the top of the list. So you should inherit everything, then it is up to you if you want to give something to his daughter. Although, if she is on SSI, perhaps she is eligible for Social Security benefits from his account? Also, i think that if the estate is under $500,000 you may not have to go through probate. But your attorney should be able to help you on that. And if that attorney you spoke with does not specialize in that field, you may want to consult with one who does. It will make everything easier.

So sorry again for what you are going through. In an earlier post i mentioned that my eldest sister died suddenly last month. She had no will and one adult son. Thank goodness between him and my other sisters we have been able to peacefully arrange her cremation, memorial service, and disposition of her possessions. Those are the nitty gritty things you have to deal with when you are least emotionally fit to handle them. i hope your situation goes smoothly and you don't end up with the additional baggage of dealing with difficult family members.

 

[HenoftheWoods]

So very sorry for you! In time you will be able to look back and smile at the wonderful times that you were lucky to have together. I think the depth of our grief is just proof of how deeply we love...

 

[PepsNick]

Oh my gosh, I am so, so sorry. I cry daily about someone in my family who I lost two months ago. OMG, that is horrible. Prayers forever! Just remember that you'll see him again, and this time without him is no time at all compared to how much time you'll get to spend with him in the future.

 

[awesomefowl]

I am SO sorry! I will pray for you!