Husband just died

[michickenwrangler]

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Found some info online, will call on Fri for an appt. Trying to work on a budget now.

 

[lockedhearts]

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Found some info online, will call on Fri for an appt. Trying to work on a budget now.

Did your husband retire from the military? If so contact the VA for information and other help for you as well. www.va.gov

Mine retired AF and we are getting him set up to get his meds at a lower cost. Hope you can get things squared away easily.

 

[classicsredone]

I am so sorry for your loss.

 

[michickenwrangler]

Memorial service was today, it was quite nice but my brain still feels fuzzy and I know that I've got to get all the loose ends tied up. I've got to get the utilities in my name, shot fdown his credit cards and all that. He just got a new cel-phone. I've got to call them now. Sigh ...

 

[SpringChickens]

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So sorry you're going through all of this. I imagine all the small things like this will make it all the more real

 

[michickenwrangler]

Picture of us at our wedding in 2007: shotgun style in city hall.

 

[WriterofWords]

What a nice photo! I'm glad things are getting done and you'll be able to breath soon. Don't forget yourself, you have to take of yourself first now.

 

[chickflick]

Gosh, you weren't married for too long. So sad. My heart goes out to you. Wish I were closer to help you. Take care of yourself. You are in my prayers.

 

[michickenwrangler]

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He and I knew each other for 13 years, dated for 11, lived together for 9 and we were only married for the last two.

 

[bargain]

That's a lovely couple photo with beautiful field flower bouquets, the kinds I grow here on the farm... Cherish the happy memories,,,,first breathe, and rest tonight .... do what is relaxing to you whether it's music, a hot bath or a book whatever....Know that there are so many praying for you and thinking of you on this board alone.

Tomorrow and yes I said tomorrow...

Make a list of must do's...

Hopefully your bank account will roll to you. You may need to open one if not.

Make sure that YOU have some sort of charge card for emergencies, etc. Take care of YOUR needs first right now!!!! Don't make any investment or selling decisions NOW...You'll get calls from folks wanting to take your money and make money and promising extra above bank savings....Just say, not now maybe 6 years from now. I wish I could be there to help you. Locate your paper work and remember You need to stay in your house! prioritize your bills, get a trusted friend to help you with calls if you need to. Allow yourself time to grief and mourn... I used to be a grief counselor and then I needed one when I lost 3 relatives in a matter of just months...But back to you....Get sleep even if it's on a recliner...Be safe driving. Guard your pocketbook and be thankful for the years you have had. I haven't had a lifetime with my present husband but it's not the time we have in a relationship but the quality And don't believe people who say get over it in 6 months.....They just never fully loved and are piping off "popular quotes"....Take the time you need....Hugs, prayers and love to you from The Garry Farm!