Husbands ultimatum

[Tyaloria]

Hi everyone!

Bit of a crisis these last few days: husband has decided it's me or the chickens!
He has even packed his bag!
I can't believe someone could be so cruel
Anything like this happened to anyone else?

 

[happyhens1972]

Hmmm, what are his reasons? It would seem you have around 40-odd chickens judging by your signature so is it because he is tired of mess? Or your time with them? Or smells? Or lack of garden? Or what? Is there no compromise to be made....maybe less chickens? More time with him?

My husband has never given me an ultimatum but he did point out that I was spending less and less time with him as my animal empire expanded....so I had a re-think about my priorities and time management and made sure we had more 'us' time.

 

[Noah]

I'm sorry you were given an ultimatum.
I don't respond well to those.
I would sit down with my husband and discuss why he is feeling so strongly about my chickens.
I hope your husband is willing to have a calm discussion with you about his feelings.

 

[Tyaloria]

I tried sitting down with him but it didn't go well.
he started shouting (nothing new) and went to crush the eggs I have incubating.
luckily the authorities are working to remove him from me and the kids as he was arrested for assaulting my 9 year old daughter.
and he wonders why I spend so much time with the chickens....

 

[JimandHope]

That doesn't sound too good, it is good the authorities are removing him as he sounds like he could be dangerous.....take care.

 

[oldrooster]

Seek counseling, what I say next will sound harsh and mean but if he wants to hurt children, he is nothing but a drag on society and your children need a real male role model not this guy. hope you get help for you and your kids, and have a happy and productive life without him.

 

[BlackBrookPoultry]

So sorry that you're going through this. Choose the chickens, it sounds like they bring you more joy than he does. Shouting, acting violent, crushing eggs, come on! Grow up. Not worth your time. I know is hard when you have kids to leave him. But this is obviously about a lot more than chickens.

 

[Noah]

I second oldroosters comments!
You and your kids deserve a happy life.
(if he wants to take his already packed bag and go-let him)
Seek advice from the authorities that you are currently dealing with.
Stay safe.

 

[littlekatzz]

My mother is a domestic violence social worker and even if he isn't hitting you or the kids... It's still a domestic violence situation. You are honestly better off with out him. He sounds like he has other issues and you deserve better as do you kids. Remember that kids learn by example and I wouldn't say he is setting a good one and possible a dangerous one.

 

[babylady4]

Let's see...... he assaulted your nine year old daughter and you still allow him to reside with you???????

Take his bag, toss it out in the street, change the locks. Good riddance!!!!!! You do not need trash like that around you or your kids.