I almost made an @ thread.

[hikerchick]

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Of course everyone is entitled to rant once in a while with impugnity.

But if they find fault with every little aspect of their lives; their parents don't treat them fairly, their spouses don't help enough, they arent' appreciated at work, nothing ever works out for them, everyone treats them unfairly, yatta yatta yatta.

At some point isn't it helpful to say- if all of these things are so unbearable perhaps then you should look at your own role in creating your own life? And stop whining?

Is that considered mean?

 

[hikerchick]

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Its not always about you, you know.

that was funny..dont care who ya are..

*gotta admit it Hiker..she got ya there...

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Please tell me which one you think I am.

 

[hikerchick]

I guess people feel it is acceptable to be rude to people if they feel that that person might be rude.

Do I have that right?

 

[redhen]

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that was funny..dont care who ya are..

*gotta admit it Hiker..she got ya there...

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Please tell me which one you think I am.

Its possible to be both.. which do YOU think you are?
i know i can be thin skinned myself sometimes...i do try to be tactful though.....
key word 'try'..
the point is..i can admit my faults..and i try to change them... I dont like hurting peoples feelings...and i wouldnt think that you do either. So .....

 

[redhen]

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sometimes your own medicine is bitter to taste...

 

[hikerchick]

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Please tell me which one you think I am.

Its possible to be both.. which do YOU think you are?
i know i can be thin skinned myself sometimes...i do try to be tactful though.....
key word 'try'..
the point is..i can admit my faults..and i try to change them... I dont like hurting peoples feelings...and i wouldnt think that you do either. So .....

no but I know I can come across as tactless at times, which I have admitted.

I don't like hurting people's feelings either.

People sometimes come across as morally superior to others and feel this gives them the right to belittle those people, often using the same tactics that they themselves have accused the other person of.

Ironic, isn't it?

 

[ranchhand]

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Of course everyone is entitled to rant once in a while with impugnity.

But if they find fault with every little aspect of their lives; their parents don't treat them fairly, their spouses don't help enough, they arent' appreciated at work, nothing ever works out for them, everyone treats them unfairly, yatta yatta yatta.

At some point isn't it helpful to say- if all of these things are so unbearable perhaps then you should look at your own role in creating your own life? And stop whining?

Is that considered mean?

Yeah, I agree, considering they're whining instead of changing their situation, over which they DO have control. BUT- there's always a butt............ there must be a kind way, a Dear Abby/MissManners way of saying it. Frankly? I let most of them go by, because I can't channel Miss Manners all the time. What I usually want to say is get off the computer and go deal with : the injured roo, the sick chicken, the nasty family member, the bad dogs, the unpleasant co-workers, the broken dishwasher, the unfair boss, the ugly treatment at the store........ ad nauseum.

But if I do comment, I try to be polite by Gramdmother Lucy's standards. If I can't wrangle that, I move on. Can't tell you how many times I grit my teeth and log out. And then go play with the dogs!

(Lucy once said the greatest treatment for a boor or a child having a tantrum was to ignore them.)

Lucy was quite a character! Ask Wynette if you don't believe me!


HEY RED! Clean your catbox, numpty!

I am going to chase chickens- Hikerchick,

to you- don't let it get to you so much, you can't save the world yet.

 

[hikerchick]

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sometimes your own medicine is bitter to taste...

Oh, I see. the old two wrongs make a right argument.

 

[rainplace]

Somewhere along the line, in my own life, I realized that my need to be right was based on my ego. Most of the time my being right doesn't matter. Like on these forums. Most of the time if someone wants to disagree with me, and they aren't open to debate, but to argument, then I stop pushing my point of view. What's the point? Sometimes by stopping and listening I learn something, and what I thought was right isn't in fact right. Other times I believe someone is just wrong and I stop pushing my point of view and giggle as someone makes an ass out of themselves. Or I move the conversation elsewhere, or tune out. I don't have a need a lot anymore to have my point of view validated. When I keep pushing and pushing and pushing that I am right, I try to figure out why it's so important to me. Sometimes I lie to myself and say, "Well, it's better for them to hear the truth." Then I have to say back at myself, "BS," they aren't even listening to me so why is this important to me... oh yeah... ego.

 

[hikerchick]

I am starting to remember what I don't like about this site.