Go slightly up.
The poop is not normal.
Do you feel any bloat or fluid in the abdomen?
She may have a soft shelled egg she is trying to pass, she may have laid internally - really hard to know until some time passes by unfortunately.
I would not soak her since she seems to be a bit distressed. Soaking can put them over the edge. You could place her in steamed up bathroom or provide a heating pad covered by a thick towel, that's if she's able to lay down on the pad.
If she has not been drinking, then I would do my best to get her hydrated. Push fluids. You can give electrolytes, vitamins, sugar water, gatorade, etc. - whatever she will drink. Then I would give her extra calcium. Crush a TUMS or give her 1/2 tablet Caltrate.