I am so disappointed...r

[melodie_a]

I just need to vent a little. This has been such a horrible week! My job changed a couple of months ago and essentially I have been given the jobs that three people were doing and am expected to accomplish everything and take on additional "development opportunities" and projects. I am so swamped that I feel like I am going to have a panic attack every day at work. I don't mind working hard, but I am a person who puts a lot of pride in the fact that I do an outstanding job and this is really getting to me. Things are starting to slip, I can see that they are but I don't know what to do about it. I am an hourly employee who is not allowed to get more than 40 hours per week and I have more than 50 hours of work to do. I spent this week doing an archival project that had to be completed by Monday so I haven't even gotten to do my own work at all. I don't know how I am going to get caught back up.

I am thankful I have a job. I need my job for as long as they will let me keep it. We have been having massive layoffs so I know that my time is probably limited because eventually they will cut my position also.... so I don't want to sound ungrateful, but I worked from 6:00 am today to 2:30 pm and I didn't even get a break to go to the bathroom. No lunch, no break... I never stopped packing and moving boxes and now I have so much homework to do for my classes that I am going to be up until 1:00 doing that plus all weekend getting ready for mid-terms on Monday. (yes, I should be doing that instead of this.. but I was a basket case and I thought if I got it out I would be able to do Algebra better)

On top of that this has been a horrific week with my 13 year old. I don't know if she has pms or what but it has been drama every night with her and I am about ready to ring her neck.

Then I get home today and check the mail and I have a letter from the Red Cross saying I am no longer an acceptable blood donor because I had a false positive test for Hepatitis C. They highlighted several times that subsequent testing was done on my sample and those results came back negative so I don't actually have Hep C and they know that but I can't EVER donate again... just in case.

I know that probably doesn't sound like a very big deal, but I am really brokenhearted about it. I feel so strongly about donating blood, I have encouraged several people to become donors and now I no longer have the right to donate EVER AGAIN, even though there is NOTHING wrong with me!?

Oh and on top of everything else our bank account is about $500.00 below where I need it to be right now. I have no idea how I am going to handle that situation this month.

*sigh* Ok, I will suck it up now... thanks for the opportunity to vent. Can someone just tell me that it doesn't stay like this for long? There will be a good day sometime soon right??



Thanks for listening....or reading!

 

[maybejoey]

It should get better.

Maybe you could ask you boss to hire someone to help you get the work done. I am sorry about you daughter but you have atleast ten more years of that.

The blood thing, I dont know?

 

[Fierlin1182]

I'm sorry to hear about your terrible week

I can say something about your 13 yr old ... I regret giving my parents such grief when I was 13. I didn't think much about their problems back then. I'm several years older now, and I can tell you that THAT period passes at least.
As for the blood donation, that just sucks.

I hope things get better for you soon. There are always days when things seem to stack up... put your feet up and have a good rest. The sun'll rise tomorrow

 

[Marcymom3]

You have had a terrible week, haven't you? As my mama used to say, "Better days are coming, honey. Hang in there!"

Thirteen is a hard age for both boys and girls. She is probably a hormonal trainwreck and doesn't know how to cope with it. But just to be on the safe side, maybe you can get some one on one time with her this weekend and see if there is anything else bothering her. I worry about so many kids being bullied these days.

Certainly hope that things improve for you on all fronts. And remember better days are coming!

 

[fuzziebutt]

Sounds like you are doing a great job at doing too much. Women have strokes, too! Your daughter may just want/need attention, so ask her to help you out with some of the home stuff you need to do. Make it seem like her idea. And yes, chin up, this will pass. Give yourself a break, and allow yourself a good cry in a bubblebath, then get over it!!

 

[domino7]

When I'm feeling like that, I just think about those who are less fortunate, and try to realize how lucky I am to have food to eat every day. Many people don't even have that.

As far as the job, are they aware of the position they've put you in? It sounds like a sweat shop lol. There are laws about getting breaks after so many hours. Not getting a bathroom break all day is unacceptable!

 

[Glenmar]

 

[melodie_a]

Thank you everyone. I have decided that I am not going to do anymore work tonight. I am toast anyway so it just isn't worth it. I think I am going to climb in the bathtub and soak some of the soreness out of my muscles that aren't used to lugging heavy boxes around all day long. I may also pull up some funny videos... dogs acting goofy always makes me laugh.

I don't blame my 13 year old for some of her attitude this week, I know she has a lot on her. Her math teacher totally stinks and she is really struggling in that class combined with everything else. I am wondering if she is starting to get sick also, she always gets extra moody when she is getting sick. I do though blame her for the fact that she threw a total fit when I told her that I didn't have the money for her to stay for the football game on Wednesday when she called me at the last minute. She really got ugly with that one. We now have a new rule that if an activity isn't approved at least 24 hours in advance... the answer is no.

At least tomorrow is Friday... that is a good start at least!

 

[fuzziebutt]

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

Schedule some time with your supervisor and ask him/her to help you figure out how to handle all the additional work and to help you make sure you are prioritizing things as they should be. Take those breaks--they will really help you be more efficient.

Puberty is a tough time for kids--hormonal swing are huge and if there is anything else going on it seems to become a much bigger issue than it really is. SOmetimes a teacher/student fit just doesn't work well. Talk to the school counselor or whoever you need to see about getting her changed to a different teacher. Whether that is successful or not, see if they have any sort of tutoring program that might help.

If money is that tight, you really need to let your daughter know more about your finances so that she can be realistic in her requests.

As for blood donations, I cannot donate either. It happens. If you really want to help, maybe you can organize drives or volunteer in other ways. Sometimes they change the restrictions. Many years ago my mother was told that she could never donate blood because she had malaria as a child. They changed that rule (depending on the type of malaria) years ago, and she was able to donate a few times before she got old enough that we were more concerned about how donating would affect her health.