I could smother him with a pillow! UPDATE (GOOD/BAD)

[SarahBeth9394]

He definitely should not be home alone at all. I know nursing care isn't the choice for many people but if you can't watch him and something really bad happens (like him taking off and getting lost or hurt, or him hurting himself trying to prepare lunch) it will feel a whole lot worse than putting him in a facility that will have around the clock supervision. Good luck with him.

My mom wanted to move close to me from out of state. She finally accepted that she can't live by herself. I told her the only way she could move (she currently lives with some friends) is if she could afford assisted living. She's made several lifestyle and financial decisions that are keeping her from affording it so she's not moving. I know I can't take care of her in my situation so her coming here is out of the question.

 

[redhen]

I'm so sorry about your grandpa..

 

[Camelot Farms]

You are all constantly in my prayers.

Know that you are being lifted up by many.

 

[McGoo]

I've never had a grand-dad, so I can't talk of the frustrations. Wish I had one to take the keys away though.

 

[jjdward]

Thanks everybody. He just don't look good. He can't even stay alert for a whole conversation. I don't think it will be long. I have asked him several times if he was any pain ( and most of the time his legs hurt really bad) and he says no.

 

[Southernbelle]

I'm so sorry, JJ. I really enjoyed your funny stories in the beginning. I'm sorry things are going downhill.

We'll keep him in our prayers.

 

[sfw2]

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What Karen said.

 

[ems_chick]

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is his pulse usually 46? that is REALLY too slow unless he has prior cardiac issues and is on medication that causes this... could be why he is sleeping constantly. your grandfather needs evaluated be a dr immediately, not a home health nurse. not trying to push you into anything

but TIAs are precursors to the big stroke.

 

[MandyH]

Johnathon, we will keep your family in our prayers. Hope things get better for y'all.

 

[Beekissed]

You might want to contact your local hospice agency and see if he fits the criteria for their benefits. His medicare has hospice benefits that most folks don't know about. It sounds like he is ready for this level of care if you don't wish to seek active, aggressive treatment to treat his declining health.

Hospice pays for anything to do with his comfort....medical equipment necessary; supplies like diapers, chux, personal care; pain, nausea, respiratory, and anxiety meds that are given for keeping him comfortable.

Plus, you could have aides coming in to bathe him, nurses in to evaluate him and help you care for him at home.