I Don't Know What To Think

[Bunnylady]

I admit that a lot of guys are clueless; my husband certainly was. And there are girls that, when they find out a guy is in a relationship, seem suddenly, irresistibly attracted to him. I can't say whether this is one of that sort or not. But I think that most girls are socially savvy enough not to attempt a full-on sexual assault (come on, let's be fair; isn't that what we call an unwelcome attempt at a kiss when a guy does it?) without at least some encouragement. He was enjoying the attention, and encouraging her. When he found out what her intentions were, he should have broken this "friendship" off there; he is still encouraging her. To me, the question in your mind shouldn't be "why is he doing this to me?" but simply, "why is he doing this?"

 

[Welshies]

I admit that a lot of guys are clueless; my husband certainly was. And there are girls that, when they find out a guy is in a relationship, seem suddenly, irresistibly attracted to him. I can't say whether this is one of that sort or not. But I think that most girls are socially savvy enough not to attempt a full-on sexual assault (come on, let's be fair; isn't that what we call an unwelcome attempt at a kiss when a guy does it?) without at least some encouragement. He was enjoying the attention, and encouraging her. When he found out what her intentions were, he should have broken this "friendship" off there; he is still encouraging her. To me, the question in your mind shouldn't be "why is he doing this to me?" but simply, "why is he doing this?"

Hmmm... good point.
Personally, what he has told me so far is, he wanted a friend. Someone to go to with his problems (and I will admit- I have been slightly ignorant to his problems lately), because I'm not always available to talk (I'll also admit, I struggle with listening to other's issues). Now, his friend answer may just be the result of honesty and a really, really clueless guy! He only has 1 or 2 other friends, who are guys, 1 of which is sort of toxic (this friend has made up lies and told me them in an attempt to split us up before, and he won't stop no matter what we try), and the other friend he's not close to.
That's the only "why" explanation I have so far.

 

[tigger19687]

If you both have had issues before...He said "if things were different we would be dating"...and you have sat down to talk with him and told him to not be friends with her..... and he DIDN'T stop being friends with her
Tell him good bye.
sorry, it is easier to just end it.
If he really wanted to be with you he will fight to stay

 

[Welshies]

If you both have had issues before...He said "if things were different we would be dating"...and you have sat down to talk with him and told him to not be friends with her..... and he DIDN'T stop being friends with her
Tell him good bye.
sorry, it is easier to just end it.
If he really wanted to be with you he will fight to stay

He's not friends with her anymore. He deleted her out of his life without me asking, except for the first time. And I did, the first time, play it off as no big deal, he may have misinterpreted that as "I'm cool with it now".