I never lost a child yet not being negitive You never know 100% what will happen in the next 5 mins. I lost my Dad 2 1/2 years ago he was 79 and we all asumed Dad had it all in order. No one wanted to ask. What a mess.
Like one person said on here We are supposed to go first, Well Dads' aren't supposed to go at all. I'm a year away from 60 and I still need my Dad for advice. So I know what you feel.
As for Custody, Is Dad around?? If he is and paying Child support then it is a mute problem. If not then you need to get something on paper, Get a lawyer.
No matter how hard you carefully approch the talk it is still going to be pretty blunt and to the point getting started. But it can be done.
This was the best Christmas and closest Christmas our Family ever had then or since:
My Grandmother at the age of 86 Went in and got ready for bed Christmas Eve, my Sister went to her room and asked " Grandma what would you really like to have for Christmas.
She said " All I really want is to go be with your Gandfather" .
Sis tucked her in and later we could her her breathing, Na grandma snored !
That was the last thing we heard as we all went to sleep. My Dad, 5 of us grandkids and spouses, along with Great Grandkids and Great Great Great Grandkids. My Dad was an only child. At last count we have 52 Direct decendants From Grandma
Next morning Grandma had left to see grandpa without us.
All the little ones understood where she went and we could go later.
We had a Celabration instead of a Funeral. Laid her to rest in the Family Cematary on Christmas Day next to Grandpa who was next to His Mother and Father Where Dad now lays next to His Mother and Father. and with aunt's ,Uncle's and cousins all around. Where I will lay someday next to My Mother and Father Go and be with my Family in that Heavenly place and the young one's young one's will Know "they can come later"