i feel like leaving, i dont feel too wecolmed here...

[Mutchi]

as the title says im thinking of leaving byc. my prents are just puting my in full responsibilety of my chickens and i came here to help my chickens cus i noticed something was wrong! but you guys tell me to rehome my pets that im trying to help. i cant sell or rehome sick chickens can i?! i feel so unwelcomed! its just like if i told you to get rid og your unhealthy flock, would you like that!? remember the golden rule, or even the byc rules, treat others the way you want to be treated! if i continue being treated like im just a heartless nonhuman being then i will leave.

 

[sourland]

Sorry that you feel this way, but when we ask for advice people are going to give their opinions. They may not always be what someone wants to hear, but generally they are sincere with the interests of the animals a priority. It's animals first - owners second.

 

[JacinLarkwell]

The thing is that you keep getting more animals when the ones you already have are having health issues. That's why people are saying to regime or sell off some of them if you want more. We're not telling you to get rid of them just because we don't want you to enjoy having them

 

[MommaHen1996]

Everyone will always have their own opinion...u should have seen the reaction I got from a post of my old restar after she played in the mud....some people thought it was cute ( like me) others were harsh and voiced very clearly that they though my chicken was sick....I ended up deleting the post...and moving on.....

 

[Mutchi]

The thing is that you keep getting more animals when the ones you already have are having health issues. That's why people are saying to regime or sell off some of them if you want more. We're not telling you to get rid of them just because we don't want you to enjoy having them

they just seem so happy were they are and they love me! and i didnt do much to earn their love... and how they look at me, its like their saying "you would never let me go would you?"

 

[JacinLarkwell]

they just seem so happy were they are and they love me! and i didnt do much to earn their love... and how they look at me, its like their saying "you would never let me go would you?"

All animals are like that. You've seen my comments about how many I have on your agony thread.

I would love to keep all of them, as well as all my non bird animals.

But sometimes they need to be moved on. And just because you pass in getting an animal now doesn't mean you'll never get another chance.

I've wanted a horse since I was like 6. We had a chance at an auction when i was like 8, didn't get it. When I was 16, I was told my aunt was dropping off an old mare she couldn't use anymore, years after I had that first chance.

I wanted my own breeding groups for poultry when I first started 4H. We only had one flock though and that's all I could have until last year. Now I have my groups.

I really want all sorts of other kinds, ducks, turkeys, pheasants, exotic chickens, heck even a pink guava tree. Those all will have to wait until I move and I've had to just make peace with it.


Some things won't be meant to be the first time they're offered

 

[Mutchi]

All animals are like that. You've seen my comments about how many I have on your agony thread.

I would love to keep all of them, as well as all my non bird animals.

But sometimes they need to be moved on. And just because you pass in getting an animal now doesn't mean you'll never get another chance.

I've wanted a horse since I was like 6. We had a chance at an auction when i was like 8, didn't get it. When I was 16, I was told my aunt was dropping off an old mare she couldn't use anymore, years after I had that first chance.

I wanted my own breeding groups for poultry when I first started 4H. We only had one flock though and that's all I could have until last year. Now I have my groups.

I really want all sorts of other kinds, ducks, turkeys, pheasants, exotic chickens, heck even a pink guava tree. Those all will have to wait until I move and I've had to just make peace with it.


Some things won't be meant to be the first time they're offered

every one is different, my life is a horrible mess and i have lost everything. these pet are the last thing that makes me happy.

 

[Mutchi]

im loosing my family, my pets and relationships. i feel like im going insane!

 

[Mellowmalt]

It's easy to feel criticized on an online forum when people generally are disagreeing with what someone is doing. If you don't want to feel criticized then the best thing is to stay away from social media for a while or learn from what is being said.
To me silkie's seem like a bad bird with inherent difficulties that too many get because they think the bird is cute. A sick bird is the least cute in my opinion so I will stay away from silkies.
I have no idea what the background is here tbh, how sick the birds are or if my comment is even helpful but I have felt criticized a lot on forums too, 80% of times is is a bit of a misunderstanding and 20% people are just ****'s but one should always try to learn from what people are saying. It is a hard realization that one can't keep something we want to keep. If we can keep it that is great, but if we are not in the position to do so then what are we really annoyed about? The fact we can't give them a good home or the fact that someone is pointing out this harsh and unacceptable fact. Sometimes someone ponting out that something can't be done can encourage that person to do their best and prove them wrong. One thing to remember is that nobody is perfect. Nobody, least of all the president. So if you are comparing yourself to everyone else, don't think of yourself as the rotten apple amongst the other apples telling you you are rotten. No the truth is all the apples have a worm in them and they want to tamek themselves feel good by telling the other apples they're rotten. It's just human psychology. To put it more into perspective, a lot of people raise broiler chickens which I don't like the idea of but it's part of life. Some people go as far as being comletely vegetarian and will have a critical view of people eating meat. Yes they will even critizise them for it? Should the meat eaters feel bad and feed our dogs vegetables? Well, that is for everyone to decide themselves. I think a critizism should be analysed for what is being said, unless the person knows you directly, chances of it being a personal insult will be very slim unless they are a ****, which does happen too.
And even if it is then the skill is to see it as such and not get annoyed. I know it's easier said than done which is why I take periodic breaks from social media. It serves no good purpose if w get annoyed.

I do hope they get a good home, like said the animals welfare first, even if it means putting them out of their misery when needs be.

Ps: sorry things are falling apart around you. Been a tough year for a lot of people, hope we get through it.

 

[Aquira]

So I haven't read all your posts/threads, but what I get from them is your parents are trying to put waaaayyyy too much responsibility on you. Yes, it's important for kids to know how to be responsible for animals by feeding them and such. But adults need to step in and do the things that are impossible/much more difficult for kids. You aren't responsible for the entirety of the animals and their wellbeing. The adults /have/ to be responsible as well. Otherwise the animals are unhappy, the kid is unhappy, and the adults are unhappy.
Some people just don't understand the level of care that animals might need. This could be exercise/mental stimulation, housing, feed, maintenance such as picking up poo, vet visits, etc.
I think what more so people are trying to get at is your parents shouldn't be overloading you/themselves with the animals when it seems you're struggling enough as is.
Just because you or your kid might want an animal, doesn't mean you should get it. Or even get it right away. A lot of research needs to be done on the requirements for each animal before it's purchased. There are people who go and leap in without much research and it turns out alright, but they are lucky.
Let's use this as an example. Let's say you/your parents want a wolfdog. You guys happen to find one available near by. Let's say that the place you're getting them from isn't the most responsible and they give you the wolfdog without making sure youf family is a good fit.
They require super secure runs. They usually require a more unique diet than most dogs. They require a different way of raising and handling than dogs.
If your family fails in just one of these aspects, it could be very bad (perhaps not the diet so much). Not a secure cage? It could get out and kill the rest of your animals. Not raised right? It could potentially end up attacking you or your parents. Maybe it even goes after a neighbor or their kid. (Not to say wolfdogs can't be awesome in the right household but to me most households aren't good for them).
Obviously, there's a lot of what ifs here. But I hope you understand that (while maybe not as extreme), animal care is very important.
Your parents aren't being very responsible and the animals are having a hard time because of that.