i feel like leaving, i dont feel too wecolmed here...

[Mutchi]

So I haven't read all your posts/threads, but what I get from them is your parents are trying to put waaaayyyy too much responsibility on you. Yes, it's important for kids to know how to be responsible for animals by feeding them and such. But adults need to step in and do the things that are impossible/much more difficult for kids. You aren't responsible for the entirety of the animals and their wellbeing. The adults /have/ to be responsible as well. Otherwise the animals are unhappy, the kid is unhappy, and the adults are unhappy.
Some people just don't understand the level of care that animals might need. This could be exercise/mental stimulation, housing, feed, maintenance such as picking up poo, vet visits, etc.
I think what more so people are trying to get at is your parents shouldn't be overloading you/themselves with the animals when it seems you're struggling enough as is.
Just because you or your kid might want an animal, doesn't mean you should get it. Or even get it right away. A lot of research needs to be done on the requirements for each animal before it's purchased. There are people who go and leap in without much research and it turns out alright, but they are lucky.
Let's use this as an example. Let's say you/your parents want a wolfdog. You guys happen to find one available near by. Let's say that the place you're getting them from isn't the most responsible and they give you the wolfdog without making sure youf family is a good fit.
They require super secure runs. They usually require a more unique diet than most dogs. They require a different way of raising and handling than dogs.
If your family fails in just one of these aspects, it could be very bad (perhaps not the diet so much). Not a secure cage? It could get out and kill the rest of your animals. Not raised right? It could potentially end up attacking you or your parents. Maybe it even goes after a neighbor or their kid. (Not to say wolfdogs can't be awesome in the right household but to me most households aren't good for them).
Obviously, there's a lot of what ifs here. But I hope you understand that (while maybe not as extreme), animal care is very important.
Your parents aren't being very responsible and the animals are having a hard time because of that.

i understand!

 

[KingD]

@i want a sillkie .
Don't leave BYC!
You're a very nice person. Don't think everyone hates you, because they actually don't. What they're trying to do is help your you and your pets.

Listen to exactly what they tell you to do and reply in a kind way, that is the way to gain friends. Believe me, if you do what people tell you to do when you ask a question, you'll become hugely successful in looking after your pets.

Again, please don't leave.

 

[Mutchi]

@i want a sillkie .
Don't leave BYC!
You're a very nice person. Don't think everyone hates you, because they actually don't. What they're trying to do is help your you and your pets.

Listen to exactly what they tell you to do and reply in a kind way, that is the way to gain friends. Believe me, if you do what people tell you to do with helping your birds then you'll become hugely successful in looking after them.

Again, please don't leave.

dont worry, i wont as long as i have at least 1 person thats nice to me... like you or @CrazyCochin or @the_peanut_coop but she had left..

 

[JacinLarkwell]

Think of it this way.

We're being harsh because we care. We're not coddling you or doing everything possible to protect your feelings /not/ because we want to be mean to you, but because we want you to be sucessful, and to be successful you need to understand life is not always going to go how you want it to, no matter how desperately it may be

 

[JacinLarkwell]

Think of it this way.

We're being harsh because we care. We're not coddling you or doing everything possible to protect your feelings /not/ because we want to be mean to you, but because we want you to be sucessful, and to be successful you need to understand life is not always going to go how you want it to, no matter how desperately it may be

A bird that raises its chicks may look mean when she kicks them out of the nest, but it's because otherwise they wouldn't survive.
A dog that bares it's teeth at the pups when they're old enough to leave isn't being mean, she's trying to help them learn to live on their own
A sheep that rams it's lamb when it's time to be weaned isn't mean, she's trying to make it understand it needs to grow up

 

[Gizabelle]

...SMH.
Based on the information that you have provided, other members have given their opinions on how to best care for your animals. From the threads that I've read, 95% of the suggestions that you take as "people being mean" were, in fact, truth bombs that you don't want to face. Some members are probably getting frustrated because you tend to make excuses or start threads like this instead of work on the root problems.
I think its great that you are willing to part with some of your chickens for a start (You will be soooo much happier with a small flock!) Why not (instead of focusing on this sort of thread) start a new one asking for advice about how to downsize considering some of the health issues you have going on in your flock? I know there are plenty of members following your threads that will give solid advice on that front.
We get that you are young. Your parents should not have allowed you to get into this mess, but as they don't seem to be looking out for your or your animals best interests, you will have to grow up a little faster and do it yourself. Start by setting boundaries (for yourself and your parents), ie: no more animals. You have more than you can reasonably care for, and they are suffering because of it. You are also hurting yourself trying to juggle all these responsibilities. Besides, if you have some sort of breakdown, who will care for all of them?

 

[fluffy07]

as the title says im thinking of leaving byc. my prents are just puting my in full responsibilety of my chickens and i came here to help my chickens cus i noticed something was wrong! but you guys tell me to rehome my pets that im trying to help. i cant sell or rehome sick chickens can i?! i feel so unwelcomed! its just like if i told you to get rid og your unhealthy flock, would you like that!? remember the golden rule, or even the byc rules, treat others the way you want to be treated! if i continue being treated like im just a heartless nonhuman being then i will leave.

Hi Songster,
You are NOT being treated like a heartless nonhuman being here! There are some lovely messages today to you from members. I would encourage you to get in contact with your local chicken rescue centre and tell them your problem. They will have vets who can help your chickens, and tell you what is wrong with them. I would also contact your local vet who will put you in touch with an animal rescue centre. They can work with you to help the chickens. I know how sad and bad it is when chickens get sick, and they can, even with the best care. You know, in your heart, that this forum is the best place to get advice and help. Just DO something to contact local help and it will make you feel better.

 

[Mutchi]

...SMH.
Based on the information that you have provided, other members have given their opinions on how to best care for your animals. From the threads that I've read, 95% of the suggestions that you take as "people being mean" were, in fact, truth bombs that you don't want to face. Some members are probably getting frustrated because you tend to make excuses or start threads like this instead of work on the root problems.
I think its great that you are willing to part with some of your chickens for a start (You will be soooo much happier with a small flock!) Why not (instead of focusing on this sort of thread) start a new one asking for advice about how to downsize considering some of the health issues you have going on in your flock? I know there are plenty of members following your threads that will give solid advice on that front.
We get that you are young. Your parents should not have allowed you to get into this mess, but as they don't seem to be looking out for your or your animals best interests, you will have to grow up a little faster and do it yourself. Start by setting boundaries (for yourself and your parents), ie: no more animals. You have more than you can reasonably care for, and they are suffering because of it. You are also hurting yourself trying to juggle all these responsibilities. Besides, if you have some sort of breakdown, who will care for all of them?

your right but i cant sell any chickens till they are healthy. i cant sell them in the condition they are in!

 

[Mutchi]

Hi Songster,
You are NOT being treated like a heartless nonhuman being here! There are some lovely messages today to you from members. I would encourage you to get in contact with your local chicken rescue centre and tell them your problem. They will have vets who can help your chickens, and tell you what is wrong with them. I would also contact your local vet who will put you in touch with an animal rescue centre. They can work with you to help the chickens. I know how sad and bad it is when chickens get sick, and they can, even with the best care. You know, in your heart, that this forum is the best place to get advice and help. Just DO something to contact local help and it will make you feel better.

i will try to get my mother to take some of our flock to a avian vet!

 

[Brooks_]

i will try to get my mother to take some of our flock to a avian vet!

Maybe she could get the vet to come to you. Not to examine and treat each, but to give an overall triage assessment. Might even spot something environmental that's causing the problems. It never hurts to ask.