I have a huge conflict

[jvls1942]

Henry'schickens :

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Please, not yet! They have not gone out to dinner yet and it would be interesting to see how it turned out.

,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,and they all lived happilly ever after......THE END​

 

[ScoobyRoo]

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Please, not yet! They have not gone out to dinner yet and it would be interesting to see how it turned out.

,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,and they all lived happilly ever after......THE END

ridgefire deserves a happy ending and I hope he gets it.

 

[wclawrence]

Okay I am just saying, the wrong person finds this post, after all, it is all over the internet. BYC has how many members?

 

[onthespot]

he has not used any identifying data about this person, so I doubt he could be prosecuted as he did not name her, the arresting officer, the boyfriend, the husband, his wife, the road the were on, the make and model or license of the car, the town it happened it. Nothing to go on. All that being said, I'd still ask admin to nuke the thread.

Here is some interesting info that the administrators may want to read about what is or is not libel v.s. defamation, what constitutes damages, etc... it was written for horse people, but I imagine the same holds true for chickens.

http://www.equinelegalsolutions.com/2009/01/horse-industry-defamation-liability.html

 

[ridgefire]

There is nothing in this post that I would want to be deleted. There is no information given to parties involved.

There is no slander, there is defamation.

If the person involved is reading this and has a guilty conscience then maybe they should come clean. But otherwise this is just some story on the internet.

 

[seminolewind]

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Where or where did you find you avatar? I used to have the same woman and the sign said Being grump is part of my charm....

I don't know, I just looked thru avatars. My other one is

but I hesitated on using it because I've never had gas in my life

 

[seminolewind]

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WELL SAID!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm a chicken and wouldn't do it face to face. I would still break off the friendship because it would be hard to face them after this.
The other thing is that this is really is something that is between them and no one else, except for her using your name, which I would still threaten her with, since you want nothing to do with what happened.

 

[seminolewind]

I think you handled it really well. And you didn't break any rules at all, not moral, not legal. We all have no idea who you are talking about, and your user name is probably not your real name. Very interesting post, I hope it stays open so you can update all our inquiring minds, or just the nosy ones like me

 

[PortageGirl]

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Well, as at least one other person who PMd me figured out, I was in a situation similar. I knew something from work circumstances that related to a pair of friends. I said something to the injured spouse, and I regretted it. I lost both friends in the end. If I had confronted the 'guilty party' it may have turned out different, but I told the 'injured party' that there was something going on and that they might want to confront the other one. Well, I lost both of them, guilt? embarassment? hurt? who knows.

I after that experience I decided that if I couldn't keep quiet, (which might have been the better choice all around, they might have worked things out in the long run without my interference, and who am I to say?) but at least if I had stood up and talked to the person who was mucking things up, I would have been better able to look in the mirror and know I'd taken the better route.

We're all different though, and no two situations are the same. "Judge not lest..." may be a tough thing to live by, but we can only control our own actions in the long run. The 'guilty party' in this case is the one who put me in the awkward position, not the unknowing spouse, so that is who I should have spoken to... but sometimes we only learn from experience.

As far as us being nosey, well.... maybe to an extent, but we are also learning from each other's experiences too.. that's at least a little why we are nosy. Or so I hope!

nosy-ness has a purpose in some cases, it's not always a bad thing.

 

[Wifezilla]

I lost both of them, guilt? embarassment? hurt? who knows

In the long run, is losing people like this REALLY a loss?​