I have been in the hospital

[EweSheep]

Be strong and lean on your friends and family for this trying times.

Get well FAST!

 

[Mommi3130]

I wish you all the best, take it one day at a time, it does get easier.

 

[Whispering Winds]

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Please listen . . . .they always say their sorry and you have a two week or so "honeymoon period" and then its right back to the shoving and then hitting . . . my DD lived like this for almost 9 years, longer actually if we knew what he did before that period, and the last time he hit her, he shoved her off their deck steps and her face hit the side of a landscaping stone. It tore her face up so badly, it scared me and her little sis to death, because we thought it would have killed her if she had just twisted her head a little to one side and hit her temple. She finally wised up, after 14 years, and he is out the door. Two nice little girls, 11 and 12 and naturally they are going to be caught up in the custody battle. He has no right to these kids, period in my opinion, because he is a kicker and a horrible verbal abuser . . . I could go on and on. My thoughts and prayers are will you and your little ones, and bless you. You are going to have to be strong to keep him away and not let him come back.

 

[suzyq53511]

Thank you everyone for all your support. I really need it. I have never lived on my own. Always with someone else....This is completely new to me. I know things will get better, but I have a mountain to climb. I very high one..................

 

[sfw2]

SuzyQ - I know it's scary to be on your own, but just think how much courage it took for you to get out of that situation. You are stronger than you know. A year from now, you'll look back and wonder how you ever put up with that

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[Elite Silkies]

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Your exactly right when you say he does not want to lose control. It is always about control. Stay strong and stay away. You are better than this and you deserve better. My mother has worked with Domestic Violence for almost 19 years now. It seems like a never ending circle. They are always sorry, but it's only worse the next time.

My prayers are with you. If you need someone to talk to, My mom and I always have an ear available.

 

[I have WHAT in my yard?]

Please please listen to these women! Reach out for help this is not your fault but only you can get yourself out of it. He WILL be sorry and he WILL swear he'll never do it again. Forget about yourself and what you think you deserve or what you think you need. Focus on your children! Children who see their mother abused almost always end up in abusive relationships either as the abused or the abuser. It screws them up but good. Be strong for them. Be strong for your future.

I am so glad you have supportive parents, my mother's own mother told her after her spouse beat her into a miscarriage that she had made her own bed and needed to lie in it. She got out and eventually met my father. But, she told us her story repeatedly so we would not make the same mistakes in choosing men.




I also have a cousin whose husband beat her. Her brother was a special forces vet. He wanted to "take care of the matter" but she refused. Finally one day after she had left him he threatened their daughter. She called her brother and said I am done.

It's like that song Goodbye Earl. No one noticed he was gone. When the police did investigate, his car was found at a bridge with the keys and his wallet in it, and his apartment was found locked from the inside...... The assumption is he jumped.

There were no signs of a struggle he was just gone. And the brother had an airtight alibi so it cannot have been him.

Be strong.