I need ideas on condolense gift.

[Eggs4Sale]

I remember after my Dad died unexpectedly, and there were us three and my Mom wandering around in shock for many days. When cards came in, I'd get upset at the wording, or saddened further. Flowers were delivered and just sat there looking out of place. The one thing my Mom and I remember positively was the tray of cheese and crackers and veggies brought by a long-time friend.

I'm not saying cards and flowers aren't lovely, thoughtful gestures. They are. But in our pain, they weren't. Maybe they have been to other people.

Well, now a gentleman has died who was a very nice man. I wasn't close to him, I just really liked him. He leaves behind a widow and little boy. I want to ease this mother's stress a little, but I don't know her well enough to help her directly. I could drop something off, but I couldn't call her and say I'd help her in any way I could. Can anyone give me some examples of something someone did for you that made a small difference in a time of pain?

 

[wegotchickens]

A goody basket is a nice thing. Fresh fruit, crackers, cheeses, cookies or candy all piled together in a basket. It lasts, but also offers a nice treat from time to time.

A gift card to a local restaurant was also a nice gesture, since it could be redeemed later on when we needed to just get out of the house.

A nice stuffed animal for the child is also nice. Something to hug and hold onto.

 

[JennsPeeps]

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You answered your own question. Take them something to eat. Make it in a disposable pan & make it something that can be frozen, so that thay can freeze it if they don't want it immediately, and won't have to worry about getting a plate back to you.

 

[NGT ANGL]

I took a neighbor that I really didn't know a dinner casserole (lasagne) and a pan of freshly baked rolls, plus I took a basket and got a lot of child friendly snacks and some inexpensive toys for her children. I truly think it was just right kind of thing to do.

to you for being such a caring person.

 

[miss_jayne]

i second food. especially kid friendly food. but not too much junk. if you take cookies, also take something with protein for the sugar low.

ie: a nice platter of oatmeal cookies and a stuffie for the young boy and another tray with assorted cheeses for subsequent 'real snacking' later.

sometimes we don't want a full meal when our emotions are running up and down. but snacks we'll get down.

skip the part in the card saying how time will heal all wounds yadda yadda just like you are saying. no one wants to hear that right now. right now she wants her husband back. God bless her and keep her and her son.

 

[JessaLynn]

My dad just passed away a few weeks ago and we were flooded with cards and flowers.It was nice but just sat there not helping anything but a reminder.I to agree you answered your own question.Food is the best thing or even a gift card to help.Whatever you decide it's such a nice gesture for you to think of that person

 

[cafarmgirl]

I agree with the other posts. When my mother-in-law passed a few months ago the nicest thing I remember us getting was from a friend who, one evening, delivered a simple dinner he and his wife had picked up from the local grocery deli/rotisserie. We were so stressed from all that needed to be done and it was so nice to come home and have a hot meal on the table ready to eat.

 

[spook]

I just lost my mom on the 20th of July, it was unexpected yet she had been ill for 14 years.
In luei of flowers money went to the local Art Center. Although I did recieve money in envelopes to help towards funeral costs, mostly family.
A close friend organized folks on bringing food for the after the service. If it hadn't been for her, the house would not have been clean, I still wander around wondering what to do next.
Dropping off a basket of fruit would be super, a few coloring books and crayons for the little guy. It does moms good to see that the kids were acknowledged.
Who knows, you may have just made a nice friend. If you have kids of your own, maybe finding a place, park, lake (free) place to have them join in with your group.
Its such a nice thing that you are thinking of another.

 

[English Chick]

Take them food as it is the last thing on their mind to feed themselves........... and it will be gratefully received, perhaps not at the moment, but later..... but do take them a food basket no matter how big or small.

to you

 

[English Chick]

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Hugs... I am so sorry for your loss................ xxxx