I need ideas on condolense gift.

[rancher hicks]

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Please forgive me but I'm old. I never take anything said at weddings and funerals seriously. The emotions are flowing and sometimes things get said that make no sense and sometimes they do. Ya just gotta take it with a grain of salt. Keep the good ones and ignore the nutters.

 

[Southern Chickens]

FOOD!!!
We got food after my father died and we needed it. Mom didn't want to cook and really couldn't, to be honest. Daddy was the cook in the house. I would go with food. Maybe some pre-made meals in tupperware or something they could just heat and eat. Maybe enough for a few days or a week.

 

[Eggs4Sale]

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There's an indoor service followed by the burial.
I think you're right on the crowd.
I just know if I have to speak with her I'll make a fool of myself. But I can show up with my oldest son. Hopefully, Grandma can watch the two little ones.

We're not with this Cub Scout Pack any longer. The boy has a different Cubmaster, so we cannot help in those regards, but I know his current cubmaster will help out with any house repairs that need doing. He's that kind of guy.
My son and hers are 3 years apart, and he probably doesn't remember us, so I'm not sure we can be of much help there.
I just don't know how there life will ever be normal now. She doesn't to my knowledge work. Dad was the bread-winner. Self-employed. I hope she has her Mom living here still.

 

[spook]

The food thing is difficult, cans and those little boxes of cereal etc would be great. With my moms event, I have no idea who came, who was at the house, I talked, managed to have cried all the fluid out of my body before the service or I would have leaked everywhere!
I was so glad my nephew was going back to work, I sent dozens of sandwiches to the garage with him for the guys to eat. And the sweets, my heavens. (Not that I didn't like them!

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Often the "I'm sorry" is rough, but a phone number and a offer of a cup of coffee is sweet. There is no wrong in showing someone you care.
Its especially nice that you thought of her husband enough to send a note.

Sorry to everyone ! Having lost a loved one, there is no way of being prepared, no matter how long you may care for them.

 

[Sunny Side Up]

On "making a fool of yourself":

We're often so afraid of saying the wrong thing that we say nothing at all. But the following story illustrates to me what perfect sympathy consists of:

"One day a Mom sent her daughter to the store up the street to get a loaf of bread for lunch. She expected her home in 10 minutes. She returned after an hour. The Mom was angry. "What took you so long! Now lunch will be served very late!"
"Mom, I'm sorry I'm late, but as I was going by our neighbor's house their little girl came running down the steps to show me her new china doll. But she tripped and fell, breaking her brand new doll."
"Ohhh" the Mom said, "I understand now. You stayed to help her pick up the pieces and put them together."
"No Mom" the daughter replied "I stayed there to help her cry."

 

[Eggs4Sale]

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[ODS-n-ENS FARM]

When my mom died I was overwhelmed with what I called "funeral food"(casseroles and dinners) My heart was broken and I was not able to eat a meal.Small things like fruit, crackers,cheese and cookies I could eat. I don't think I have eaten a casserole since she died. I know in the weeks following it there was alot of take out being eaten . I was grieving and unable to function the thought of cooking did not cross my mind. I would suggest a snack basket with a gift card or two for local take out places .