I refuse to feel guilty!!!!!!!!!!! A rant, but also a problem

[chickeypoo]

DON'T FEEL GUILTY!!!! id never make my mom or even step mom(which i don't have thankfully LOL... i got a step dad though) feel guilty and make take on my animals. they are not your responsibility. they are hers. she needs to find a place for them.. and that doesn't mean your house. she needs to realize that life is hard and she needs to deal with it. she needs to grow up and realize life isnt' always fair and she doesn't always get her way. she thinks she can just pawn these pets off on someone and expect to get them back later? hmm. i don't think so. you and your new kitty deserve time together.

Sue

 

[EweSheep]

I agree with everyone here, you must stand your ground and say NO! its hard but it is tough love!

 

[Livinzoo]

When I was young I didn't get any animals that I couldn't take with me. When I moved out of my moms house I had 3 flying squirrels, 12 lizards, 5 snakes, and 2 cats. As much as I wanted a dog, it waited till I had a house. I have always said I will not get rid of my animals, I seriously would live in a cardboard box if for some reason I lost my home and didn't have a place to take me and my animals. If there is a will there is a way.

My brother on the other hand expected people to take in his animals when he couldn't.

I would say no too. If it was a finite time maybe but otherwise no.

 

[MagsC]

I agree that you should have a say, especially being you would be the main care giver. You have a very good argument for refusing IMO.

 

[Sissy]

Dont feel bad about it
and Just say No.

 

[Krysstyllanthrox]

I think you are absolutely right to not take them in.

When I moved out (into the dorms) at 18 I didn't get a pet. When I moved to Texas I initially didn't get a pet.

I waited until I knew I could take care of myself before I got an animal of my own. Then, when things got unsettled, he got rehomed (back to my parents as an outside cat, but they offered) and I was without a pet for several years.

Until you know you can provide stability for an animal you have no business getting an animal.

Her animals are not your responsibility. But if you took them in, they would be. Would she pay vet care? Or would she just come back, swoop in and say "Oh, I can take them now" after you've come to know them and (possibly) care for them and break your heart all over.

I speak from experience. My brother moved out, got a pit bull puppy - sweetest dog ever. He got into some trouble and moved to a different town, my parents agreed to take care of "his" dog. They both fell in love with Apollo. Then brother came back and got his dog cause things were stable. Then he got arrested. Mom and Dad broke into brother's apartment to rescue Apollo. And have since told him that the dog stays. They've paid everything for the dog for the past several years. Brother still says it is his dog and will go where he goes.

 

[Wifezilla]

Just say No

 

[Julie08]

Ask her sister when shes picking them up if shes so worried about them

 

[sundance]

It's hard but JUST SAY NO, Your house, your rules

marrie

 

[country freedom]

gritstar, you just got a new kitten, and a new puppy, after you just lost a golden hearted pet-love.

Do not feel bummed, you ARE doing what is right for yourself, now you can start going forward with both new pet-loves.

HER animals are HER responsibility - period!

As for her sister asking you to take the animals in, why don't she take her sister's animals in if she is so concerned about them?

Don't be bothered with negativity when it's not needed, it's not good for you, you know that.