I refuse to feel guilty!!!!!!!!!!! A rant, but also a problem

[hunterjumper999]

I agree- don't take them if you dont want to assume 100% responsibility for them.

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[Mattemma]

Is your DsD still living with you,and did she bring her pets? Did her sister take in the pets?

 

[deb1]

Why can't the mom take the dogs in?

 

[M To The Maxx]

I agree with you 100% gritsar. If she can't take care of her own animals she needs to rehome them. But there are a couple things I don't get. Why is she moving so much? Can she not keep any animals where she is moving to?

 

[M To The Maxx]

Accidentally reposted.

 

[Ridgerunner]

I agree you are doing the right thing. Family is family and you help out where you can, but you also have a responsibility to yourself. Part of that help may be helping them grow up and take responsibility for their actions.

I'm glad your new hubby is supporting you in this. He sounds like a keeper.

 

[007Dawn]

I'm sure I will get a lot of negatives on this but the dogs and cats are not your responsiblity I agree.

BUT did you all know that the part of the brain that permits good decision making and seeing things all the way through, kind of knowing what to do and how to handle things and to make good decisions does not fully develope until a child is about 25-28 years of age?

The age 18 is set by law but it does not mean the child is a "big girl" and shoudl have to fend for herself.

So why is it that people except children who's brains are NOT fully developed to make grown up decisions!?

This is also why children do not usually go "Oh you know what maybe someone older than me actually does know something." Until around the age of 28.

Leave the animals but help her to make good decisions and yes even if that means supporting her.

And regardless of the age of a child they will always be your responsbility. Even if they are a step you take that role on by marring their other parent. Not saying this is your case but just adding a nickles worth instead of two pennies.

 

[Chicksdigit]

Chances are pretty good that she knows how much you care for her. and a simple conversation should suffice to let her know she has to make other arrangements but if she asked you if the dogs could come and stay then you should talk to her not your husband. He is kind of stuck in the middle and has to be the bad guy. If you talk to her she will understand. And you won't be bummed anymore.

 

[gritsar]

Just a quick update since this thread got resurrected. DSD and her animals are all living with her mom. She even managed to get another cat somewhere along the line.

Since we have no contact whatsoever with DH's ex, we only hear bits and pieces of how things are going. I do know DSD #2 is mad @ her mom for letting one of the dogs almost starve to death. Again these are her dogs, but she takes no responsibility for them. Apparently the agreement was that her mom would care for them while DSD #2 worked. The one dog is food aggressive and was keeping the other dog in the same pen from eating.
I'm kind of ticked off right now because while we were shopping last night I asked DH to buy her (DSD) a $40, 40 lb. bag of food for her dogs. I know that she's having a hard time keeping them all fed. We gave it to her when she showed up here for supper last night. She didn't have the decency to say thank you.

She keeps talking about wanting to feed them this very expensive food. She says one of the dogs has allergies and needs a certain food. She's not been able to afford anything but the cheapest food available, in small bags. She was probably upset because we bought her a better quality food, but not the best food.

In the meantime, DSD #1 and her 3 year old son are staying with us while she gets so time to get her head together. My orderly world has been turned upside down, but we're coping.
Thanks y'all.

 

[horsejody]

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