I wanted to cry today GRRR

[RAWR]

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Bet your single huh? That's no way to behave in a relationship and a ---- ---- attitude. I certainly hope the OP doesn't listen to you, unless she wants trouble.

i have a bf, thank you very much.

 

[redhen]

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Bet your single huh? That's no way to behave in a relationship and a ---- ---- attitude. I certainly hope the OP doesn't listen to you, unless she wants trouble.

I think its great that shes a strong person already! I applaud this young woman...

I see soooo many women lay down and be door mats for their men.... "Waah.. my DH wont LET me get chicks...
Waaah.. my DH says i HAVE to get rid of my flock..." etc..etc... their husbands are control freaks..
Give me a break... it truly makes me sick to my stomach to read those posts...
As she said... Men dont run the relationship.... noone RUNS it... but my husband had never better even try to tell me what i can and cant do... If i want chicks and I'M going to take care of them... its MY choice... period. I'm SO glad that she realizes at a young age to NEVER let anyone take away her choices in life...
and i hope she DOES remember this all her life.
Also... i'm married.. 7 years now... and it works just fine for us...

Differnet strokes for different folks, i guess...

 

[Elite Silkies]

Quote:
Bet your single huh? That's no way to behave in a relationship and a ---- ---- attitude. I certainly hope the OP doesn't listen to you, unless she wants trouble.

That's just a child your talking to. There is a difference in compromising in a relationship or a marriage, and being told what you can and can not do.

 

[DTchickens]

Quote:
Bet your single huh? That's no way to behave in a relationship and a ---- ---- attitude. I certainly hope the OP doesn't listen to you, unless she wants trouble.

I think its great that shes a strong person already! I applaud this young woman...

I see soooo many women on here lay down and be door mats for their men.... "waah.. my DH wont LET met get chicks...
Waaah.. my DH says i HAVE to get rid of my flock..." etc..etc...
Give me a break... it truly makes me sick to me stomach to read those posts...
As she said... Men dont run the relationship.... noone RUNS it... but my husband had never better even try to tell me what i can and cant do... If i want chicks and I'M going to take care of them... its MY choice... period.
and i hope she DOES remember this all her life.
Also... i'm married.. 7 years now... and it works just fine for us...

Differnet strokes for different folks, i guess...

But what if the DH askes permission on things as well? I always wonder if the women are really controlled or just have a mutual agreement with their husbands on what the other can/can't have. Like say, your husband wanted a pet lion, motorcycle (really from your posts Redhen I kind of think YOU would be the one who would want the motorcycles

) would you deny him that? Or would it fall under the same principle, he wants it and is going to take care of it - so he doesn't need your permission? Not trying to start a argument, just fishing I guess

.

-Daniel

ETA: Plus you have to think about if they can afford it, maybe the DH (or in some cases DW) are the money handlers and the other spouse has to ask for them due to money issues. DW/DH says no (can't afford them), but they go behind them and get them anyway?

 

[RAWR]

Quote:
Bet your single huh? That's no way to behave in a relationship and a ---- ---- attitude. I certainly hope the OP doesn't listen to you, unless she wants trouble.

I think its great that shes a strong person already! I applaud this young woman...

I see soooo many women on here lay down and be door mats for their men.... "waah.. my DH wont LET met get chicks...
Waaah.. my DH says i HAVE to get rid of my flock..." etc..etc...
Give me a break... it truly makes me sick to me stomach to read those posts...
As she said... Men dont run the relationship.... noone RUNS it... but my husband had never better even try to tell me what i can and cant do... If i want chicks and I'M going to take care of them... its MY choice... period.
and i hope she DOES remember this all her life.
Also... i'm married.. 7 years now... and it works just fine for us...

Differnet strokes for different folks, i guess...

it upsets me to see women do that! one of my friends boyfriends beat her and she never left, never told anyone. then i said something to her about the bruises and cuts and she told me. MMM...i slugged him. right in the temple. i laughed when he fell...LOL
there is no way i will EVER let the man run my life. i will NEVER be told what to do, when to do it, how to do it, or anything.
and in a marrige, you should both agree on it. ik this. but sometimes you just gotta do it!

 

[redhen]

Quote:
I think its great that shes a strong person already! I applaud this young woman...

I see soooo many women on here lay down and be door mats for their men.... "waah.. my DH wont LET met get chicks...
Waaah.. my DH says i HAVE to get rid of my flock..." etc..etc...
Give me a break... it truly makes me sick to me stomach to read those posts...
As she said... Men dont run the relationship.... noone RUNS it... but my husband had never better even try to tell me what i can and cant do... If i want chicks and I'M going to take care of them... its MY choice... period.
and i hope she DOES remember this all her life.
Also... i'm married.. 7 years now... and it works just fine for us...

Differnet strokes for different folks, i guess...

it upsets me to see women do that! one of my friends boyfriends beat her and she never left, never told anyone. then i said something to her about the bruises and cuts and she told me. MMM...i slugged him. right in the temple. i laughed when he fell...LOL
there is no way i will EVER let the man run my life. i will NEVER be told what to do, when to do it, how to do it, or anything.
and in a marrige, you should both agree on it. ik this. but sometimes you just gotta do it!

Thats right.. theres something that i want you to remember..
You will only have this ONE life.. thats it... (and trust me..it DOES go by fast!!!)
Please dont be like so many women and settle..
Trust me... i am married and my husband loves me very much and he respects me.. he respects my opinion.. he respects my wants...
He would never even think of telling me no if i truly wanted something... (thats just SO hurtful and just wrong to do to someone....)
I'm not a child.. this is MY life... and i intend to be happy in it... and he knows he can either come along for the ride... or get off.

Never settle... the right guy IS out there for you.. AND guess what?? He'll even buy you your chicks if you want them...

 

[redhen]

Quote:
I think its great that shes a strong person already! I applaud this young woman...

I see soooo many women on here lay down and be door mats for their men.... "waah.. my DH wont LET met get chicks...
Waaah.. my DH says i HAVE to get rid of my flock..." etc..etc...
Give me a break... it truly makes me sick to me stomach to read those posts...
As she said... Men dont run the relationship.... noone RUNS it... but my husband had never better even try to tell me what i can and cant do... If i want chicks and I'M going to take care of them... its MY choice... period.
and i hope she DOES remember this all her life.
Also... i'm married.. 7 years now... and it works just fine for us...

Differnet strokes for different folks, i guess...

But what if the DH askes permission on things as well? I always wonder if the women are really controlled or just have a mutual agreement with their husbands on what the other can/can't have. Like say, your husband wanted a pet lion, motorcycle (really from your posts Redhen I kind of think YOU would be the one who would want the motorcycles

) would you deny him that? Or would it fall under the same principle, he wants it and is going to take care of it - so he doesn't need your permission? Not trying to start a argument, just fishing I guess

.

-Daniel

ETA: Plus you have to think about if they can afford it, maybe the DH (or in some cases DW) are the money handlers and the other spouse has to ask for them due to money issues. DW/DH says no (can't afford them), but they go behind them and get them anyway?

Daniel... hi! I hear you..and i respect what you are saying... you're a good person, i know this.
I highly doubt that you would be the type of man to get your kicks out of controlling a woman...
If my DH REALLY wanted a bike.. then he could have it... as long as we could afford it.
Also... i'm SURE that the OP knows wether or not they can afford some chicks or not.(shes not a child!! and she shouldnt be treated like one by her DH) ... either way.. its HER choice... if she cant afford them.. then she would have to get a side job or something...since SHE wanted them.
But thats all about personal responsibility...

 

[RAWR]

Quote:
it upsets me to see women do that! one of my friends boyfriends beat her and she never left, never told anyone. then i said something to her about the bruises and cuts and she told me. MMM...i slugged him. right in the temple. i laughed when he fell...LOL
there is no way i will EVER let the man run my life. i will NEVER be told what to do, when to do it, how to do it, or anything.
and in a marrige, you should both agree on it. ik this. but sometimes you just gotta do it!

Thats right.. theres something that i want you to remember..
You will only have this ONE life.. thats it...
Please dont be like so many women and settle..
Trust me... i am married and my husband loves me very much and he respects me.. he respects my opinion.. he respects my wants...
He would never even think of telling me no if i truly wanted something... (thats just SO hurtful and just wrong to do to someone....)
I'm not a child.. this is MY life... and i intend to be happy in it... and he knows he can either come along for the ride... or get off.

beautifully said
i live by this quote by Jeffree Star
"DO WHATEVER THE *french* you want because you only live once and if I die tomorrow, I wanna die HAPPY. I don't wanna WISH I did something... I DO it every day. I'm ME and no one is gonna tell me I shouldn't do this or that.. & this goes for everyone. It doesn't matter if you're family or friends dont truely understand you. YOU have to be happy. Because who else matters in the end?"
i <3 that quote

 

[StormyMoon]

Quote:
Bet your single huh? That's no way to behave in a relationship and a ---- ---- attitude. I certainly hope the OP doesn't listen to you, unless she wants trouble.

I think its great that shes a strong person already! I applaud this young woman...

I see soooo many women lay down and be door mats for their men.... "Waah.. my DH wont LET me get chicks...
Waaah.. my DH says i HAVE to get rid of my flock..." etc..etc... their husbands are control freaks..
Give me a break... it truly makes me sick to my stomach to read those posts...
As she said... Men dont run the relationship.... noone RUNS it... but my husband had never better even try to tell me what i can and cant do... If i want chicks and I'M going to take care of them... its MY choice... period. I'm SO glad that she realizes at a young age to NEVER let anyone take away her choices in life...
and i hope she DOES remember this all her life.
Also... i'm married.. 7 years now... and it works just fine for us...

Differnet strokes for different folks, i guess...

I agree, but geez I didnt know this would get that deep ........I didn't mean to offend any men on here :X

I understand my husbands thoughts, he wants me to ease into the farming he wants me to learn first and not get my self in a situation where I am in over my head.

In this day and age women are more assertive, and I too think that is a most awesome way to be.

We give and take equally, he has his trucks and I have my chicks

By the way congrats on the 7 years

I have been with my old man now 19 years but it dont feel that long.

 

[RockwaterFarm]

I thought that if i hatched chicks i wouldn't get anymore this year. Boy was I wrong! I went into TSC and saw some ducks, took three home and stuck'em with my chicks. I said last year that i would not buy anymore chickens. Never said ducks! I also said no more ducks. But i have muscovys and i wanted ducks that actually QUACK! So now I have 30 chickens, 8 ducks and wondering where i'm going to put all of them.