Idea for hobby?

[joebryant]

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Wow Joe, somehow I didn't expect that kind of reaction from you.

Are you mellowing a bit?

No, but what's good for the goose is good as a lesson for the gander.

 

[insiderart]

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Wow Joe, somehow I didn't expect that kind of reaction from you.

Are you mellowing a bit?

No, but what's good for the goose is good as a lesson for the gander.

LOL!

I say take up a very expensive hobby. One that will make bar/pool night pale by comparison. Say every bar night you go out and purchase a Gucci bag for your new "hobby" collection!

*edited to remove what might be considered insinuation into OP's situation*

 

[Henrietta23]

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Me too! But it sounds like he's mostly away nights. I do evening dog training classes to get out once a week. Anything like that near you, assuming your name means you have a dog.

 

[vfem]

Before I went broke, I played pool 2-3 nights a week on a women's league.... now every tuesday I goto a yoga class.

That way I get out... I have TOO many hobbies at home! LOL

 

[NancyDz]

My boyfriend plays pool a least two nights a week, both league nights and some other nights just practicing. He likes to be out and would be fine with me going .. I just don't like hanging at the bar. and all the pool tables are taken by the league so nothing else to do but sit there. He only goes when he's actually playing pool as he doesnt drink anyway. I wouldnt assume he's doing anything else like some have insinuated. Let's not plant a seed that isnt there. Not everyone is built to stay at home and be a homebody. Take advantage of the time and do something for yourself.. take an extension class ( I took bellydancing a couple times and woodworking another time) , get a massage, manicure. Join a gym and go workout. Plan a night with your girlfriends either out or at each other's houses renting chick flicks and drinking wine. it's very healthy to have your own separate interests as long as it's not every night of the week.


Have fun!

Nancy

 

[Olive Hill]

I won't question the acceptability of his hobby -- I don't think that's the place of an internet message board. It's your marriage, your husband. If you do not suspect him of ill-will during his guys nights out, neither should any one else.

My husband by no means goes out twice a week, but a few times a year he gets together with his buddies and they have a guys nights. For us, I am friends with all his friends wives/girlfriends -- we all have the same group of friends -- so the girls generally will have a girls' night the same time and then we all meet up later on and have some drinks together to top off the evening. All that said, if I wasn't friends with his friends "women" I still would think his guys nights out were a positive thing. Everyone needs hobbies and couples need time away from one another. I am guessing you don't have children and you're free to do as you please when he is away?

In that case try scoping out local book shops you might like to browse, take a class at a gym, get some girlfriends together for dinner or a movie, or just to hang out on your patio, etc.

Some of my fondest moments with my husband have been those when we're reunited after a short hiatus from each other. It makes you appreciate what you have that much more.

 

[country freedom]

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This is what my sisters do - they're all married.
I don't do that myself - I am a satisfied homebody.
If DF wants to go (which is rare now, since his health is slowly going downhill)- he goes once weekly - if I want to go, I go somewhere I want to go.......a hobby/craft shop/store, pet store, furniture store, I usually just like to look around, and I'm back home before darkness settles.....I don't like going anywhere after dark, that's bedtime for me (almost).

 

[Lunachick]

We made our garage into a rec room with a pool table. I play a mean game of nine ball. I beat him all the time. Maybe it's a girl's game?

DH was even nice enough to let me use the pool table for a brooder in March when we had baby chicks.

How nice is that? Yep, he's a sucker. But so am I. And I still play a mean game of nine ball.

Now it has a lot of cat fur on it. Haven't been using it lately............I should cue up my sticks and practice a bit......

 

[aussieheelr]

In responce to the "suspicion" about our marriage, I'm naturally a jelious person, it's my flaw. DH has no respect for cheaters... he hasn't talked to his father in over 3 years for that very reason, so I really don't think he would do that. So I really just need something to do while he's gone to keep my mind quiet and free of it's wondering.

I think Yoga would be a good one. I took Ti Chi in college one semester and Yoga kinda falls in that area. Been getting out of shape from sitting at my desk at work, sitting watching chickens, sitting watching movies... too much sitting, stretching would be good! Plus I know it would calm my mind too!