I'm at a loss

KristyHall

Crowing
8 Years
Jan 27, 2011
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My step father collapsed this morning.

The cancer has rapidly spread, and we didn't know about it. It has reached his brain.

The doctors has brought in hospice, and we were just told he has days.. maybe a few weeks at the most. I have spent the morning calling family and friends. Everyone around me is crying but I am oddly numb. I feel like i'm in a dream.

What's more we are now in a legal battle over the land. Some neighbors claim it was unjustly sold to us nearly ten years ago. I don't know if I have the strength to keep fighting for this farm. We are at the edge of loosing everything, and VA has made getting him treatment so hard. I feel if they hadn't dragged their feet the way they did he wouldn't be as bad off.

He is here at home. He wants to pass here. Mom is not functioning well right now. She lost her mother to cancer, and the extent of it was a surprise to her then too, so she is re-living that nightmare. We have nearly eaten up all my savings, trying to keep things together, so any dream of building a house is put on hold... likely for years at the very least.

I don'tr know what else to say. or do. I'm at a loss. I feel so odd.
 
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Kristy, I am so very sad for you.
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I apreciate it you two. The doctor called and spoke to us directly. My step father will be rapidly loosing the ability to recognize us, to understand what is going on, and the ability to care for himself. Because of this someone will have to be in the room with him 24/7. I am calling in all the favors i can with friends and family. the next few days... or weeks, will be very hard, but he insists he wants to pass on here at home.
 
Hang in there and enjoy the time that you have left with him.

This morning at 1:50AM I heard a pounding on our back door. It was my mother in law on the verge of hysterics shouting that Donna, her daughter and my wife's sister, was dead. When I finally got out of her what was going on, I ran across out lots to my sister in law's trailer. Inside I found EMS paramedics giving her CPR. They'd already been at it for a good 20 to 30 minutes. She had been fine earlier in the day and her other sister had just seen her a few hours earlier. They pronounced her dead shortly after arriving at the hospital. It has been a trying day here.

But you hang in there girl and don't let your dreams slip away.
 
I wish I knew what to say. You seem like a fine lady. First your problems with Bear and now this? Things can be so unfair. We may not even know you in real life but our thoughts are with you.
 
Hang in there and enjoy the time that you have left with him.

This morning at 1:50AM I heard a pounding on our back door. It was my mother in law on the verge of hysterics shouting that Donna, her daughter and my wife's sister, was dead. When I finally got out of her what was going on, I ran across out lots to my sister in law's trailer. Inside I found EMS paramedics giving her CPR. They'd already been at it for a good 20 to 30 minutes. She had been fine earlier in the day and her other sister had just seen her a few hours earlier. They pronounced her dead shortly after arriving at the hospital. It has been a trying day here.

But you hang in there girl and don't let your dreams slip away.
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. You hang in there too. To loose a sister, even an in law, is hard.
 

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