In-laws that turn against you and your kids, ( their grandkids)

[bigkford]

Has anyone been married for some kind of years and have your in-laws turn against you and then a few years later turn against their grandkids? Is it ,e or is it their aging years? They are only in their 60's ans 70's.

 

[Mahonri]

Sounds like it's past the point of sitting down to have a talk with them. Are there other family members that could tell you why?

 

[CoyoteMagic]

I have been married 16 years. Have only only met my inlaws once. Never met SIL or BIL, nor their daughter. She never even called to give him congrats on our wedding.

I get the blame for not going to Iowa to meet the rest of the family. My family is in NJ and comes to visit us in NC at least 1 time a year. I try to get up there once a year too.

I'm really getting used to living by ourselves. Too many crazy people out there. Most of them being family!!!

 

[chiknwhisperer]

My ex husband's parents or actually mostly his mother never did like me and had no love for her grandkids either. I don't get why some people are that way.

 

[bheila]

I've only ever met my MIL once in 9 years, thank goodness

Like my husband always says, "Treat your children and grandchildren well, who's going to be there when your too old to wipe your own behind?".

 

[Fay at Frizzled Feathers]

OMG Yes inlaws.....

My inlaws have never really liked me and i have been in the fam now for 23 years. We just do not click at all !
My MIL has said and done many hateful things to me over the years , i just concider the sourse and let it be. Now shes going through divorce and living with us and OMG I really have to bite my tounge,a lot.

Then there is my FIL and he is just so mean and hateful to all the grandchildren.Our two oldest kids are old enough where they just consider the source and says it dont bother them much but the 2 youngest its just horrible. Ohh and he just lives around the corner from us so he is here about 24/7 as well.

The only thing i can say about cases as these is it dont ever get better it seems.

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[hollymh]

My in-laws are ok, however the mother-in-law treats my daughter very different; I suppose it's because she is half me and she really really despises me, my daughter doesn't really like her anyways and has always acted weird and distant around her

Anyhow, my father-in-law adores my daughter and she adores him alike... I hate they my mother-in-law treats my daughter different, however I don't want the negative influence in her life so it's not always a bad thing if they push you away as hard as it is to grasp...

 

[bigkford]

I have been with hubby for 27 years. My in-laws live across the street from us and his sister lives next door. He has family tht lives in the city but I can't tell you the last time we have seen or heard from them. My kids keep asking why they hate them and I don't know what to tell them. They have not come ovr for holidays or anything for about 2 years. My oldest daughter is graduateing on sunday. She sent them a invitation for the ceremony but when they called her all they whated was for her to clean their barn so she asked if they were going and their response was I gotta another call coming in. Just can't figure this one out.
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[xfilesnumber1fan]

I have been married for 6 years and my husbands mother is impossible,she is hatefull,rude mean,out of control my husband wont even talk to her any more because of it..She now talks bad about our kids to others in the family it is so bad we dont have anything to do with most of his family..I dont have any family was an only child with no father and mother died 4 years ago...I really hate that is has to be this way..Hasnt seen her grand-daughter since she was 1 she is turning 5 Friday...She talks terrible about my 3 other kids from my first marriage..Kids my husband has been raising all these years because their father is gone...

 

[Judy]

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This sounds like your kids fear it is their fault. Be sure they know the problem is with the grandparents, not the kids! You can admit you don't really know what the grandparents' problem is. That's not what is important. Your kids' self esteem is what is important.