I hope I didn't, and didn't mean to offend with my opinion on roos. I don't by any means coddle my boys. My handling of them is purely for a purpose. What I meant by petting them, is I get enjoyment out of petting them, while teaching them who's boss. A coddled roo, just like a coddled puppy will end up a spoiled brat. My chickens all have names, and I do find myself talking to them on occasion, but they are chickens, and I treat them as such. I personally like to be able to reach down and scoop all of my chickens up. If there is a medical problem or they need to be checked out just to be sure everything is okay, I prefer to not have to chase them down. My boys respect us. They have a healthy fear of us, but don't see us as a threatening force to be reckoned with per their nature to protect the flock from evil.
We are their bosses to do with them what we like, and they understand that.
Get a feel for your boys, and do what works best in your own situation. I just threw the handling thing out there, because for us personally, not handling them was making them think we were push overs, and under them in the pecking order. I have heard more often than not that handling them works better, although I shouldn't have told someone what to do with their own birds because every ones situation is different. I had a lot of advice when we first started, some worked some didn't. We did what worked best for us, and used a little of all of the suggestions in different ways.