Is t because I'm married now!?

[6chickens in St. Charles]

I found by watching chickens AFTER having marriage, career changes, children and several homes, just how similar life in a flock of chickens is to life in general.

Would you find any solace in hanging with your chooks while you figure out where you're at with friends?

 

[lovesduckies]

Hmm. Yeah I am thinking that we might be unpopular now lol. Even his friends make fun cuz he doesn't hang out too often anymore and we tried I got tired so we left early. I told him we are just that old married couple now lol. Idk. It just makes me sad but I guess it's just how things go. I'm sure she will see if or when she ever gets married. It's kind if sad to me that my husbands friends are closer to me now than my own. I never had many friends before but ibthought the ones I had were close ones.

 

[debilorrah]

Ah Heather. It's still bugging you?

Like I said last night, with friend like that, who need enemies. You already said she comes up with really lame excuses all the time. I get that it is hard to let go, but sometimes that is exactly what is best for YOU.

She decided to lie to you in order to go out with someone that you dislike. Shame on her for not being honest. Really, she can pick her own friends, and if she had just been honest, you may have been hurt, but at least there was honesty there. But there wasn't. It seems to me she is just not ready to grow up yet.

Take care of you and Wayne FIRST!!!!!

 

[lovesduckies]

It kind of was bugging me. Think cuz we were friends for so long. It's like breaking up with a boyfriend or something. But I went to knots with my mom, sister, her hubby and kids, and my hubby and we kind of talked about it and just being there with them made me realize all I need is them. As much as hubby didn't want to go he still went for me. Lol and he went on boomerang with me when he really didn't want to just for me. Lol. So I don't need her. I just need my hubby bear <3.

 

[Avalon1984]

I actually had my then friend start to make up stories about my now-husband. She knew him before I did and she came up with all kinds of stuff of how crazy and possessiv he is, blah blah blah. She is gone now and he is still all mine.

 

[Longhorns&Chickens]

Its funny my husband and I were just having this discussion. We joke now that we don't have any friends!

Which isn't true, but our single friends just don't fit the family scene. Its hard we have different lifestyles now. I guess we grew up! But I notice when we don't have the kiddos at home we don't have many options for hanging out with friends. Hope you can work things out or at least find friends that you can relate with and trust! It has taken some time but we are back working on it, and finding friends that have things in common. Good luck!

 

[canesisters]

Real friends will reach out to you... (not hide from you) just like you reach out to them.
I found this out when my husband died. We had dozens of friends. Always going to cookouts and dinners and taking trips. I have 1 friend left from that time - and she was my best friend from before I'd even met Bob. At first I took it personally - I thought that maybe they weren't MY friends but his. But then realized that they probably just didn't know what to say to me or how to say it. I made contact with a few folks but it was always so 'weird' that I just let them drift away.
Time passes, things change, new people come into your life and become friends.

 

[lovesduckies]

Avalon.. are you serious!? that's just ridicules! gosh i can't stand people who do that. i'm glad you didn't let that get between you and hubby!!

Longhorns&Chickens.. i have noticed that our friends which were his friends that he has introduced me too are in relationships. hubby is in a truck club and the members of the club are basically our only friends. we do have some single friends but they are older and calmed down. not crazy bar hoppers like my soon to be ex-friend

canesusters..

i'm sorry for your loss.. i found out who my friends were and weren't after my ex boyfriend had beat me up.. i realized that i was pretty much alone.. this was when i decided to get duckies. the friend in question was there but only after she was scared i was going to off myself.

 

[Mattemma]

Yea, I don't see the point in lying either.If someone wants to ditch you they can atleast just avoid you enough for you to take the hint. Some find it to hard to be honest about wanting to end a friendship.

Take the lying as a hint and stop contact.Some people just hang on when they don't have *better* things to do with people they really like.You don't need to be one of those people.Move on and find someone better to spend time with.

 

[lovesduckies]

Yeah I am going to take your advce. She hasn't tried to talk to me since so whatever. Thank you everyone.

I hope you all have a happy thanksgiving!! I'm thankful we are going to my moms because I am a wife who can't cook well lol. Tonight we have having pasta and frozen pizza

my poor husband.