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Sounds much much much like my daughter!
Sound like we are all blessed!
Sounds much much much like my daughter!
Sound like we are all blessed!
Is There Anybody Else Here With Aspberger's Syndrome?
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Sounds much much much like my daughter!
Sound like we are all blessed!
Yes, great kid. Great baby. Great academically. National Merit Scholarship Award. 4 years of Spanish, self-taught Swedish. Beautiful Artist. Quiet, compliant. Volunteers at the library .. draws for commission. Sometimes unmotivated and the occasional depression, but if I could have 10 more just like her ............................
Sounds much much much like my daughter!
Sound like we are all blessed!
Yes, great kid. Great baby. Great academically. National Merit Scholarship Award. 4 years of Spanish, self-taught Swedish. Beautiful Artist. Quiet, compliant. Volunteers at the library .. draws for commission. Sometimes unmotivated and the occasional depression, but if I could have 10 more just like her ............................
My Aspie is and has always been a great kid also....perfect baby, sweetest little boy, most thoughtful and helpful, full of compassion for others and always an eagerness to please. He always got picked on and beat up at every school he has attended....starting with first grade at a christian school.
They say this is typical of Aspies, to get picked upon.
He is a great son to me and I could never ask for a finer person to know....I believe God makes them extra special when they have this Asperger's. Smart, funny, compassionate, hard working, sweet.....I thank God for my boy!
He is a great son to me and I could never ask for a finer person to know....I believe God makes them extra special when they have this Asperger's. Smart, funny, compassionate, hard working, sweet.....I thank God for my boy!
I agree - my little girl is completely non-confrontational with other children, however she *will* tell them when she doesn't believe they are building/creating something properly or when the rules aren't being followed. Extremely compassionate, sweet and loving. Doesn't care to be held or hugged or touched much though, so we do a lot of blowing kisses and quick pats or squeezes.
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I pretend to be normal, I have 'learned' body language cues- my cues are wrong, like a dog that wags the tail in aggressive mode and shows raised hackles when happy.
on "pretending to be normal"... I'm not normal. I know that I'm not. sometimes othes know that I'm not too. if I think of it as pretending to be normal, it makes me unhappy and emotional in a lot of bad ways. If I reframe that this way, I do a lot better: "My brain is not made like yours, but it's my brain, and I'm finding ways to be just as effective as you are. maybe even more so."
its kinda like the high school math teacher who always wanted me to show my work on how I solved problems on tests and homework... His take: how do I know you understand unless you show the method you used to get there? My take: you know because I always get the right answer, so what does it matter how I get there.
If I can solve the problem, even if it's by a different method, who cares? the problem is solved. so what if I'm not "normal". the real question is, How do I make it work?
I try to be myself but I do have to put a bit off me on lock up at times. I have always read animal body language better then people body language.
It seems like some people don't understan my brain. Thankfully I am homeschooled so i don't have teachers given me a har time an can get one on one help whne I need it.
I pretend to be normal, I have 'learned' body language cues- my cues are wrong, like a dog that wags the tail in aggressive mode and shows raised hackles when happy.
on "pretending to be normal"... I'm not normal. I know that I'm not. sometimes othes know that I'm not too. if I think of it as pretending to be normal, it makes me unhappy and emotional in a lot of bad ways. If I reframe that this way, I do a lot better: "My brain is not made like yours, but it's my brain, and I'm finding ways to be just as effective as you are. maybe even more so."
its kinda like the high school math teacher who always wanted me to show my work on how I solved problems on tests and homework... His take: how do I know you understand unless you show the method you used to get there? My take: you know because I always get the right answer, so what does it matter how I get there.
If I can solve the problem, even if it's by a different method, who cares? the problem is solved. so what if I'm not "normal". the real question is, How do I make it work?
I try to be myself but I do have to put a bit off me on lock up at times. I have always read animal body language better then people body language.
It seems like some people don't understan my brain. Thankfully I am homeschooled so i don't have teachers given me a har time an can get one on one help whne I need it.
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My daughter is a bit aggressive, domineering and wonders why no one wants to follow her way. She got into trouble by knocking a boy down in the playground last year, couldn't control her frustrations, or playing a game, "you're are cheating!" when she knows she is losing or can not be first. That motivates me even more to get help and glad her family doctor recognize that problem and it's a real challenge when daughter and father try to "one man up" with their arguement who can be better than the other. Some days it gets nasty. Two people with the same problem is a BAD combination. I sure hope dd will outgrow her "outbursts" and get herself under control.
Hubby does not think it is inherited which I do think it is. His father and mother did not do well in school or socially acceptable. His mom quit school when she was in fifth grade because she was bored and didn't want to go to school anymore. His father graduate but I found his old report cards, everything was in C, D and F's and he is at his beginning stages of Alzeihmer's or chronic forgetfulness.
My daughter is a bit aggressive, domineering and wonders why no one wants to follow her way. She got into trouble by knocking a boy down in the playground last year, couldn't control her frustrations, or playing a game, "you're are cheating!" when she knows she is losing or can not be first. That motivates me even more to get help and glad her family doctor recognize that problem and it's a real challenge when daughter and father try to "one man up" with their arguement who can be better than the other. Some days it gets nasty. Two people with the same problem is a BAD combination. I sure hope dd will outgrow her "outbursts" and get herself under control.
Hubby does not think it is inherited which I do think it is. His father and mother did not do well in school or socially acceptable. His mom quit school when she was in fifth grade because she was bored and didn't want to go to school anymore. His father graduate but I found his old report cards, everything was in C, D and F's and he is at his beginning stages of Alzeihmer's or chronic forgetfulness.
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My daughter is a bit aggressive, domineering and wonders why no one wants to follow her way. She got into trouble by knocking a boy down in the playground last year, couldn't control her frustrations, or playing a game, "you're are cheating!" when she knows she is losing or can not be first. That motivates me even more to get help and glad her family doctor recognize that problem and it's a real challenge when daughter and father try to "one man up" with their arguement who can be better than the other. Some days it gets nasty. Two people with the same problem is a BAD combination. I sure hope dd will outgrow her "outbursts" and get herself under control.
Hubby does not think it is inherited which I do think it is. His father and mother did not do well in school or socially acceptable. His mom quit school when she was in fifth grade because she was bored and didn't want to go to school anymore. His father graduate but I found his old report cards, everything was in C, D and F's and he is at his beginning stages of Alzeihmer's or chronic forgetfulness.
It is absolutely a bad combination when two people have the same problem. Bonnie always has to be "right". Slowly over time and with the help of Occupational Therapy, she's learned that sometimes, even when you KNOW you're right you don't always have to say so. I absolutely believe it's inherited. You know how people say "You're going to end up raising a child just like you!"? Well, I'm not. I'm raising a younger version of my Mom! Last year, my parents asked us to come live with them. They both have problems, so I agreed. Since moving here I noticed that my Mom fits the description and behavioral typage of an Aspie perfectly. She and my daughter both are highly emotionally charged, both "one-up" eachother, etc. Both have textural sensitivities, but Bonnie moreso. Bonnie is definitely dealing with SPD in conjunction with the ASD. Audio, visual, tactile, taste and scent. Her SPD literally effects all of her senses. I just abut threw a party when she ate a meal that had things combined it (It was a cheeseburger!). She does not do well with anything "mushy". No yogurt, pudding, cottage cheese, jello, soup, applesauce, mashed potato, gravy, sauces or condiments of any type. Nor does she do well with "combinations" - peanut butter and jelly, lunch meat at all, grilled cheese sandwiches, hotdogs on a bun. However! She'll be the first in line when I pop open a can of kidney beans, boil carrots, broccoli, squash, make meatloaf, chicken nuggets, or spagetti. Thank goodness for a great cook book or she'd be malnutritioned! No socks, no jeans (the seams "hurt" she says), nothing with a high collar. Her stimming presents itself only when she is nervous or worried about something, which isn't very often. She's always been highly highly verbal as well. Ahead of everything accedemically, which is why I'm going to be homeschooling. When I had her tested for pre-school, I was told that if I put her in that it would be "glorified daycare" and that she "wouldn't learn a single thing". *sigh* There are days I think she regards the world around her as her very own science experiment. How old is your daughter? Mine just turned five in May.
My daughter is a bit aggressive, domineering and wonders why no one wants to follow her way. She got into trouble by knocking a boy down in the playground last year, couldn't control her frustrations, or playing a game, "you're are cheating!" when she knows she is losing or can not be first. That motivates me even more to get help and glad her family doctor recognize that problem and it's a real challenge when daughter and father try to "one man up" with their arguement who can be better than the other. Some days it gets nasty. Two people with the same problem is a BAD combination. I sure hope dd will outgrow her "outbursts" and get herself under control.
Hubby does not think it is inherited which I do think it is. His father and mother did not do well in school or socially acceptable. His mom quit school when she was in fifth grade because she was bored and didn't want to go to school anymore. His father graduate but I found his old report cards, everything was in C, D and F's and he is at his beginning stages of Alzeihmer's or chronic forgetfulness.
It is absolutely a bad combination when two people have the same problem. Bonnie always has to be "right". Slowly over time and with the help of Occupational Therapy, she's learned that sometimes, even when you KNOW you're right you don't always have to say so. I absolutely believe it's inherited. You know how people say "You're going to end up raising a child just like you!"? Well, I'm not. I'm raising a younger version of my Mom! Last year, my parents asked us to come live with them. They both have problems, so I agreed. Since moving here I noticed that my Mom fits the description and behavioral typage of an Aspie perfectly. She and my daughter both are highly emotionally charged, both "one-up" eachother, etc. Both have textural sensitivities, but Bonnie moreso. Bonnie is definitely dealing with SPD in conjunction with the ASD. Audio, visual, tactile, taste and scent. Her SPD literally effects all of her senses. I just abut threw a party when she ate a meal that had things combined it (It was a cheeseburger!). She does not do well with anything "mushy". No yogurt, pudding, cottage cheese, jello, soup, applesauce, mashed potato, gravy, sauces or condiments of any type. Nor does she do well with "combinations" - peanut butter and jelly, lunch meat at all, grilled cheese sandwiches, hotdogs on a bun. However! She'll be the first in line when I pop open a can of kidney beans, boil carrots, broccoli, squash, make meatloaf, chicken nuggets, or spagetti. Thank goodness for a great cook book or she'd be malnutritioned! No socks, no jeans (the seams "hurt" she says), nothing with a high collar. Her stimming presents itself only when she is nervous or worried about something, which isn't very often. She's always been highly highly verbal as well. Ahead of everything accedemically, which is why I'm going to be homeschooling. When I had her tested for pre-school, I was told that if I put her in that it would be "glorified daycare" and that she "wouldn't learn a single thing". *sigh* There are days I think she regards the world around her as her very own science experiment. How old is your daughter? Mine just turned five in May.
That sounds like exactly like your daughter with your mom....sigh! It has gotten toxic at times and hubby has a temper that needs to be addressed. If she was mellow, not "cranking" it up, he is good as gold with her and harmony flows like water. If one of them stop the flow, look out! My daughter is seven years old.
DD and hubby both have their senstivities and both have a temper. Instead of walking away, they both would go all out on frustration like one would ram a round pole into a small square hole and they would go at any length to make it "fit" that would end up breaking the items or someone would get the cross hairs if you don't remove yourself from their space. Both of them would "drama" things in anger, such as making alot of noise, then stop to see if you are watching them and they would do it again.....ugh! Blaming is the big thing for both of them and they use it often. I would ignore them when they do it because it does not help them any nor want more drama from it when someone is watching them. DD is picking up some of my cues as the "mommy stare" when she said something wrong and she would go "what? What? What did I say?" Then I would let her know what she had said was not acceptable.
If my daughter and I was alone, we would manage just fine with less meltdowns.
Today, it was SWEET! Not a problem with anything. She did what she had to do, take a shower, get dressed, get her shoes and socks on and get breakfast and take her medication. No back talking, or anything.........I'm in tenth heaven! However I know she will get tired after school, cranky and counseling is tonight so hopefully it would be a good one.
The schedule of smiley faces and frown faces, for her chores she needs to do is going ok but have some rough days. I have to be persisent.
DD and hubby both have their senstivities and both have a temper. Instead of walking away, they both would go all out on frustration like one would ram a round pole into a small square hole and they would go at any length to make it "fit" that would end up breaking the items or someone would get the cross hairs if you don't remove yourself from their space. Both of them would "drama" things in anger, such as making alot of noise, then stop to see if you are watching them and they would do it again.....ugh! Blaming is the big thing for both of them and they use it often. I would ignore them when they do it because it does not help them any nor want more drama from it when someone is watching them. DD is picking up some of my cues as the "mommy stare" when she said something wrong and she would go "what? What? What did I say?" Then I would let her know what she had said was not acceptable.
If my daughter and I was alone, we would manage just fine with less meltdowns.
Today, it was SWEET! Not a problem with anything. She did what she had to do, take a shower, get dressed, get her shoes and socks on and get breakfast and take her medication. No back talking, or anything.........I'm in tenth heaven! However I know she will get tired after school, cranky and counseling is tonight so hopefully it would be a good one.
The schedule of smiley faces and frown faces, for her chores she needs to do is going ok but have some rough days. I have to be persisent.
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Addressing "NORMAL" ... that word bristles me.
What is NORMAL?? anyway. TYPICAL, maybe, but NORMAL?
I tell my girls that some parts of us all may not be TYPICAL of other people, or children their age etc. ... but NORMAL?? ugh. Just hate that word.
LOL.
Sorry... personal rant..
EVERYBODY has a different "NORMAL" ...
/end rant
What is NORMAL?? anyway. TYPICAL, maybe, but NORMAL?
I tell my girls that some parts of us all may not be TYPICAL of other people, or children their age etc. ... but NORMAL?? ugh. Just hate that word.
LOL.
Sorry... personal rant..
EVERYBODY has a different "NORMAL" ...
/end rant
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on lockup, that's a useful term, I think I'll adopt it
actually I don't think that activity is special to us, everyone has to do that. my hubby, who isn't aspie but is a *guy* is perfectly to happy to scratch and belch the alphabet and ... well you know... when he's out in the work shed. and that has to go on lockup when we're in public spaces like restaurants, or have friends over. I think "sometimes put parts on lockup" is just the cost of living in a society of people with cultural rules. maybe what I put on lockup is different that what someone else who isn't aspie does, but we all have to do some of that if we're going to be accepted in social settings.
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me too. have you read temple grandin's books? if you havent you should, I think it's quite interesting for those of us with this kind of brain.
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my guess is more than "some"
that's ok, it makes the ones who get us extra cool. rare and exotic like us.
It sometimes seems like I'm from a different planet. still that doesn't mean I can't be happy and functional living on this one. just means I have to learn to translate the local behavior, and learn the local customs so I can get along well enough to be accepted and be happy. "Fitting in" is the result of actions and choices, not a birthright, and it's up to me to figure out 1) how much I want to, and 2) how to do it.
interesting that you're home schooled, in some ways I wish I had been. on the other hand, my family is populated with *crazy* people, so maybe it's good that I wasn't
on lockup, that's a useful term, I think I'll adopt it
actually I don't think that activity is special to us, everyone has to do that. my hubby, who isn't aspie but is a *guy* is perfectly to happy to scratch and belch the alphabet and ... well you know... when he's out in the work shed. and that has to go on lockup when we're in public spaces like restaurants, or have friends over. I think "sometimes put parts on lockup" is just the cost of living in a society of people with cultural rules. maybe what I put on lockup is different that what someone else who isn't aspie does, but we all have to do some of that if we're going to be accepted in social settings.
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me too. have you read temple grandin's books? if you havent you should, I think it's quite interesting for those of us with this kind of brain.
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my guess is more than "some"
that's ok, it makes the ones who get us extra cool. rare and exotic like us.
It sometimes seems like I'm from a different planet. still that doesn't mean I can't be happy and functional living on this one. just means I have to learn to translate the local behavior, and learn the local customs so I can get along well enough to be accepted and be happy. "Fitting in" is the result of actions and choices, not a birthright, and it's up to me to figure out 1) how much I want to, and 2) how to do it.
interesting that you're home schooled, in some ways I wish I had been. on the other hand, my family is populated with *crazy* people, so maybe it's good that I wasn't
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