Is this rude?

[NotabitaiI]

Just curious because I live in the south but I was raised with Midwestern manners, I say yes please and no thanks or I use yes and no and then end the interaction with a thank you, also I smile. Since I live in the south it's not uncommon for some older southern person to glare at me and say "you mean yes ma'am?" like I've done something wrong
Is it rude to use the wrong manners?

 

[sourland]

I don't think so, but I'm a Yankee. A relatively polite one at that.

 

[The Moonshiner]

Just curious because I live in the south but I was raised with Midwestern manners, I say yes please and no thanks or I use yes and no and then end the interaction with a thank you, also I smile. Since I live in the south it's not uncommon for some older southern person to glare at me and say "you mean yes ma'am?" like I've done something wrong
Is it rude to use the wrong manners?

I'm born and raised in the Midwest.
I say yes but not yes please. I do say no thanks. I most always say ma'am but only sir half the time.
I find more people rude by how they say things more then what they say but again born and raised here so most were probably raised to speak the same

 

[pikapika]

Here in California, you'd get weird looks if you did call someone sir/ma'am. I do usually say "yes please" or "no, thanks" vs just yes or no though.

 

[BlindLemonChicken]

Honorifics are kind of a big deal in the south but I think it’s generational. I was raised in the west so I don’t ma’am and sir but I also don’t let my kids call older people by their first names because my husband is from the south and he is right about that. Kids calling adults by their first names is…weird. I imagine they don’t think you’re being rude but too familiar in a way. I haven’t gotten any flak for it yet so maybe I’m too old for that haha

 

[NotabitaiI]

Honorifics are kind of a big deal in the south but I think it’s generational. I was raised in the west so I don’t ma’am and sir but I also don’t let my kids call older people by their first names because my husband is from the south and he is right about that. Kids calling adults by their first names is…weird. I imagine they don’t think you’re being rude but too familiar in a way. I haven’t gotten any flak for it yet so maybe I’m too old for that haha

My mother always enforced the Miss and Mister rule when using an adult's name. I don't really mind when kids use my name, especially younger ones who took the time to learn my name and say it properly, what I do mind is the older kids who dude and bro me, like I'm not your bro lil man
And you would NEVER catch me using dude language with someone even a couple years older than me, it makes my skin crawl when grown adults call older people bro.

 

[5Australorpasaures]

Please without the yes, thank you is a given. Yes Sir is usually used when agreeing to a story or fact and is said yezz 'irrr buddy. Only time "yes sir" was in the military, I'll play your silly game.

 

[SilverBirds]

As someone who was born and raised in the deep south, yes/no ma'am/sir and general southern hospitality are hard engraved in us from a young age. If I didn't respond with a clear "yes sir" to my grandpa when he called me over, I would get a very stern, I didn't hear a yes sir? from him. If you didn't use ma'am/sir it was considered disrespectful or impolite. I think boomers and some GenX still strongly believe in using those manners, but most of the younger generations doesn't care as much. I still use yes ma'am/sir when I'm addressing someone older than me, or when I'm at the grocery store talking with a stranger, even if they are my age or younger. Even adults will address children and teens as ma'am or sir on occasion depending on the situation.

 

[TwoCrows]

Here in New Mexico everyone uses Yes Ma'am, No Ma'am. Yes Please is common. If someone says Good Morning it's impolite to say How are you, before saying Good morning.

But this said, I don't think anything is rude unless it's said in a derogatory fashion. It's not always what you say, it's the attitude you have while saying it.

 

[Ikslo]

“I meant what I said, bless your heart.”

But then again, I’m a Yankee. And probably not as polite a one as @sourland.