What I told my mother "it's 2pm on the 18th, come or not, either is fine with me" Wedding was planned in 3 weeks, was lovely and legal.
It begins: Attack of the Momzilla (update post 62)
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Better yet...plan the wedding that you want, then tell her you eloped. That way she doesn't have to come!
Dena, Gene just said, "NICE! That's why I love Dena!"
Maybe we'll elope after all, if this is a taste of what's to come.
Better yet...plan the wedding that you want, then tell her you eloped. That way she doesn't have to come!
Dena, Gene just said, "NICE! That's why I love Dena!"
Maybe we'll elope after all, if this is a taste of what's to come.
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Better yet...plan the wedding that you want, then tell her you eloped. That way she doesn't have to come!
Dena, Gene just said, "NICE! That's why I love Dena!"
Maybe we'll elope after all, if this is a taste of what's to come.
I would! Save money for you honeymoon!
Better yet...plan the wedding that you want, then tell her you eloped. That way she doesn't have to come!
Dena, Gene just said, "NICE! That's why I love Dena!"
Maybe we'll elope after all, if this is a taste of what's to come.
I would! Save money for you honeymoon!
Excuse me, make them look bad? Brides and grooms plan weddings, not mothers, so any "reflections" are on guess who....
Tell her she can give you the fives and say she did in her thank you notes. Tell her the timing is not bad for you. Tell her you aren't asking her to do the work, and you intend to continue to plan your own life.
Ignore her and do what you want. If eloping is attractive, do it. If you want to get married in the state park or the local landfill, do it. When she starts, tell her you think you hear the doorbell ringing, and hang up. You are not required to explain your choices to her, though I am sure you have already tried.
Put your physical and emotional energy where they are needed; her opinions are not part of this.
Sure, there will be stress, but it is up to you to exclude her rants from this, since she evidently will not. (I had such a lovely mother.)
And have a great wedding!
Tell her she can give you the fives and say she did in her thank you notes. Tell her the timing is not bad for you. Tell her you aren't asking her to do the work, and you intend to continue to plan your own life.
Ignore her and do what you want. If eloping is attractive, do it. If you want to get married in the state park or the local landfill, do it. When she starts, tell her you think you hear the doorbell ringing, and hang up. You are not required to explain your choices to her, though I am sure you have already tried.
Put your physical and emotional energy where they are needed; her opinions are not part of this.
Sure, there will be stress, but it is up to you to exclude her rants from this, since she evidently will not. (I had such a lovely mother.)
And have a great wedding!
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If a wedding in front of friends and family is important to you, don't let your Mom take that from you with her selfish attitude. This is about you and your DH, not her. I would just tell her the day and time and leave it at that if she insists on being a turd about it.
Or just elope and have a nice casual barbecue or potluck at a park with friends and family afterwards to celebrate. You're still going to be married afterward, just married and a lot less poor
Or just elope and have a nice casual barbecue or potluck at a park with friends and family afterwards to celebrate. You're still going to be married afterward, just married and a lot less poor
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Jenn, i know how important this is to you. Dont let someone ruin your special day. Its the only one you'll have. Do it your way. I loved my wedding, but when i think of all the money i wasted on it! UGH! And it was a cheap wedding compared to alot of them. OOh, just thought of something, you're going to Hawaii...A beautiful beach wedding! I'd do it in a heartbeat!
And if you want to also celebrate with close friends and family have a nice dinner or something when you get back from Hawaii. Okay, its settled, THATS what you are doing young lady!
Both my weddings consisted of me, him and a JP, the first one on my lunch hour, the second on my day off, and I probably wore jeans. Both were mistakes. My best friend had a secret wedding, so we had a party a couple of weeks later to celebrate; that was a good match. My son married his second wife at the state park; they sent the invites out so late that maybe 40 showed up (they are terrible procrastinators) but that was also a good match. My son's first wedding was the worst of all, regular church thing, gobs of people, and everyone (including my son) knew it was a mistake. I almost didn't go, and probably should not have bothered.
tell her that if she shakes her money maker then maybe someone will slip her a whole $20 instead if just a $5
she sounds like a lot of fun, my condolences.
also congrats and do what ever YOU and Hubby-to-be wants no one else matters.
she sounds like a lot of fun, my condolences.
also congrats and do what ever YOU and Hubby-to-be wants no one else matters.
After participating in 6 weddings of my siblings... and numerous friends weddings and maid of honor twice for my best friend i told my BF there is no way I want to do a wedding.. too much stress, hurt feelings, disagreements, etc etc not to mention all the money spent.
I will go spend my money on a dream trip and have a casual party when we come back. My mom's all for it and will give me the $$ towards it that she spent on my siblings' weddings.
Too much stress for one day that the bride and groom barely remember anyway. My sister said all that fuss about a cake and the food and she doesnt remember eating any of it because there was so much going on. No thanks.. a nice vacation sounds better to me!
Good luck in your choice.. in the end just do what makes you the happiest.. DO NOT TRY TO MAKE OTHER'S HAPPY, it's YOUR DAY not Theirs!
Nancy
I will go spend my money on a dream trip and have a casual party when we come back. My mom's all for it and will give me the $$ towards it that she spent on my siblings' weddings.
Too much stress for one day that the bride and groom barely remember anyway. My sister said all that fuss about a cake and the food and she doesnt remember eating any of it because there was so much going on. No thanks.. a nice vacation sounds better to me!
Good luck in your choice.. in the end just do what makes you the happiest.. DO NOT TRY TO MAKE OTHER'S HAPPY, it's YOUR DAY not Theirs!
Nancy
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