It begins: Attack of the Momzilla (update post 62)

[JennsPeeps]

I'm not sure if this email I just got from my mom is a good or bad thing. If I know her well enough, she's probably pouting.

Dad and I have talked it over. Your wedding, your decisions. We don’t agree, but not our call. Have fun with it. Love you. Ma​

 

[EweSheep]

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Yep, in her usual huffy response. Something my Mother would say!

 

[Eggs4Sale]

Sounds like Dad told her it's not her day, and to stifle the drama.

 

[Wifezilla]

Exactly. Got to love Dads at moments like this!

I have noticed over the years there seems to be an inversely proportional relationship between money spent and years married. There are exceptions, but in most cases, the more spent on the wedding, the shorter the marriage lasts.

Since hubby and I spent a total of $28, we should be together forever

(22 years so far!)

 

[Jenski]

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Ouch! As a daughter with over 40 years experience, I would gently suggest that it sounds like these conversations are not really about the wedding at all . . . but perhaps they are part of a very long conversation that has been going on between the two of you.

Close your eyes (after you finish reading!).

Think about what you are about to do, promising your life to the person you love above all others . . . think about what is important, dear friends, family, spending time together . . . think about how precious and short life is . . . and think about what kind of day would be so simple-yet-incredible that it would bring a lump to your throat to recall years later . . . and lovingly, clearly, unfailingly do exactly what your heart tells you.

All the rest of the stuff will work itself out.

I wish you many blessings in your new life adventure!

 

[redhen]

Jenn, is your mom somehow aganist the wedding in general? Like she dosent want you to get married to DF?

 

[babylady4]

Your wedding; do what you want. Tell her to butt out and if she is going to be unpleasant she does not have to come.

I did everything my mom wanted for my wedding because she was footing the bill. I hated the whole thing, the best part of the whole day was that I was married and out of her house!

Good luck and best wishes!

 

[ranchhand]

When DH and I got married in 2002, we had both "been there, done that" and were in our forties. We had a friend who was a JP and also managed a pawn shop.

So we got the rings from him, enlisted one old pal as a witness and got married on a Sunday morning on the street corner that used to house the bar where we met in 1974. Jeans and white shirts were the order of the day.

What we had NOT counted on was that it was the day all the college students were moving into their dorms! They were all stopping to watch and comment- and their parents were trying to drag them and their belongings away!

After brunch at Alex's, (IHOP was packed), we came home and called all the relatives and friends with the notice. Mom was pretty upset, silently cold- and she got over it within 3 days. She later told me she was glad she didn't have to deal with it, and that she was so happy DH and I had finally learned to get along!

So get married in the way that most makes the two of you happy. Be considerate of others, but don't let them run roughshod over you.

And may you have many, many years of happiness and blessings!

Edited because the brain works faster than the fingers.

 

[debilorrah]

Jenn. Get married in a field in the pouring rain in your jeans if that is what you two want. We are inviting 3 people to our wedding, and one of them is not my mother.

 

[horsejody]

26 years ago DH and I got married. We were both in the Marines and stationed in Hawaii. No family members were there because it was so far away. We got married on the Pali Lookout. It was great. No fuss, no big expense, no reception and no complaining. Our son got married last year. He was also in the Marines and stationed in Hawaii when they were married. DS and DDIL paid for it all themselves. Friends and family helped with decorating. People from church gave discounts on pictures, the cake, catering, etc. They had about 100 guests. The wedding, dress, tux, reception hall, pictures, food, the prettiest wedding cake I have ever seen in my life, decorations, etc totaled less than $2000. They planned carefully, and it was the best wedding and reception you could imagine.