Chicken hermit, that is rough with a relative. My dad had Asperger's so even growing up I had to be the parent,then he got dementia, even though he lived close to home he kept wandering off, he was not healthy to walk then he'd lay down in the road, and forget how to get home. Eventually we had to put him in a home. Then I would still get phone calls because he'd get all worked up about something, or he would try to wander again. He was in a home for 1 1/2 years and passed away this last Sept. But now my life is a new chapter, and everything is quiet.
