This is so sad. Times seem so tough for so many people right now. I feel blessed that my relationship is the one thing I KNOW I can count on. I hope she can have that someday, soon. (I wish that for everyone who doesn't already have that)
Just wants to be friends?
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Even with those nails??
I agree with you, though. My man is my best friend. It would be sad to marry someone who wasn't
I'm such a dork, he would have left me a long time ago if he wasn't the best guy in the world...
I will keep them in my thoughts. I work with special needs kids, and I know how hard (yet rewarding!) it is to raise them.
I am a combo dork/blonde-in-training. I say some really stupid stuff sometimes and instead of getting irritated, he finds it funny!
Even with those nails??
I agree with you, though. My man is my best friend. It would be sad to marry someone who wasn't
I will keep them in my thoughts. I work with special needs kids, and I know how hard (yet rewarding!) it is to raise them.
I am a combo dork/blonde-in-training. I say some really stupid stuff sometimes and instead of getting irritated, he finds it funny!
I am an advocate for people in this situation and I am happy to offer what support I can via e-mail if your friend has access.
I have been through similar myself many years ago and have worked in this area for the past 10 years plus.
I am so grateful that both of my sons were fit and well, but I have supported many women in exactly this situation.
My first reaction was the same as many of you, and I ask the question:
"Were they not friends when they were making these children?" Hmmmm, I also wondered if maybe his leanings were not of the usual persuasion.
Whatever it is this man has a real big problem with relationships/responsibility/and duty.
Your friend is well rid of him and things may look bleak right now but she can only move upwards.
Please PM me if she would like my contact details. I do know that it is a different country and situation but sometimes an anonymous friend can make a difference.
I wish her luck for the future.
Jena.
I have been through similar myself many years ago and have worked in this area for the past 10 years plus.
I am so grateful that both of my sons were fit and well, but I have supported many women in exactly this situation.
My first reaction was the same as many of you, and I ask the question:
"Were they not friends when they were making these children?" Hmmmm, I also wondered if maybe his leanings were not of the usual persuasion.
Whatever it is this man has a real big problem with relationships/responsibility/and duty.
Your friend is well rid of him and things may look bleak right now but she can only move upwards.
Please PM me if she would like my contact details. I do know that it is a different country and situation but sometimes an anonymous friend can make a difference.
I wish her luck for the future.
Jena.
Ok...now I have a clearer picture.
He wants to be "friends" so she doesn't get mad and do what she needs to do to protect herself and her children.
She needs a court order, child support, and he needs to get his butt to work, even if it is flipping burgers.
He needs to man up whether or not they stay married.
He wants to be "friends" so she doesn't get mad and do what she needs to do to protect herself and her children.
She needs a court order, child support, and he needs to get his butt to work, even if it is flipping burgers.
He needs to man up whether or not they stay married.
"Man up"! I love that phrase. And I would be like aren't we friends now??
What were we all these years friends with benefits??
DH knows better. I'd kill and hide the body.
I'm just sayin'
What were we all these years friends with benefits??
DH knows better. I'd kill and hide the body.
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Yes he said if they couldn't be friends it was her fault because he was going to act nice and chipper. If she acts mad or upset it's her fault they can't be friends. Give me a break!
I think he has much control over her-based on this and other things she has said. I think she is better off without him. I'm sure with their current bankrupt financial status she will be hard pressed to get $$ out of him.
My mom always taught me to get an education and be able to support yourself and your children. She had a lot of failed relationships, and always took care of us with her Master's degree. Even if the marriage doesn't break up, we never know when we will be on our own or need to support our families.
Yes he said if they couldn't be friends it was her fault because he was going to act nice and chipper. If she acts mad or upset it's her fault they can't be friends. Give me a break!
I think he has much control over her-based on this and other things she has said. I think she is better off without him. I'm sure with their current bankrupt financial status she will be hard pressed to get $$ out of him.
My mom always taught me to get an education and be able to support yourself and your children. She had a lot of failed relationships, and always took care of us with her Master's degree. Even if the marriage doesn't break up, we never know when we will be on our own or need to support our families.
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They are his-he is much older than her-has an older set of children as well. I'm not positive of her age, but I think she's under 25. They have lost their house and she has been staying with her mom for the past month while he sleeps in their house to try and keep it from having the bank take it. When she told me that a month ago I was like hmmmmmm.
She has pretty much nothing at this point, but at least she has her mom to stay with.
Don't know about the girlfriend thing-I get the feeling he was probably not completely honest with his last wife when he got with my friend. Not sure though...
Ohhhhh,, well then. Thats a whole notha can of worms. Yikes
They are his-he is much older than her-has an older set of children as well. I'm not positive of her age, but I think she's under 25. They have lost their house and she has been staying with her mom for the past month while he sleeps in their house to try and keep it from having the bank take it. When she told me that a month ago I was like hmmmmmm.
She has pretty much nothing at this point, but at least she has her mom to stay with.
Don't know about the girlfriend thing-I get the feeling he was probably not completely honest with his last wife when he got with my friend. Not sure though...
Ohhhhh,, well then. Thats a whole notha can of worms. Yikes
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But I also get the feeling he wasn't honest with her. He strikes me as the smooth type that hides a lot-you know? I don't think she knew she was "the other woman" and I don't think she was for very long. I think he was already split with his ex.
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