Keep It or Not?

[herfrds]

I try to stay out of the fights between my GM and mom, but I call my GM every weekend and DH calls her every Tuesday. We hear all about what is going on between them.
We live around 250 miles away and I worry about her.

So i know what is going to happen. Mom gets told I am keeping the pin and earrings. She gets mad and calls my oldest sister; who is on the outs with grandma; sister calls me under some pretense and get's the conversation around to how GM is out of it and does not know what she is talking about and how the pin should go to mom.


PineappleMama I know what you are talking about. that is grandma's biggest concern. She hates it when family members come over because they are just going through her stuff to see what they want, she knows they are thinking about what each item is worth. She gave me all of her table cloths, there are 2 in the box that I always remember being on her table.
She was so mad at my mom once she was ready to give me her entire ceramic bird collection. I didn't because I didn't want to be in the middle.
After things had calmed down she did talk me into the eagle and meadowlark. this was several months later.
One thing really bugging GM right now is when someone gives her a gift and then tells her that they want it back after she passes.

We have given her gifts and never once has it crossed our minds to ask her for it back.

 

[ranchhand]

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If they are Stangl, hold on to them! Very nice collectibles.

And I agree with the others - if GM says keep them, keep them. And don't break up the set to placate mom.

 

[mom'sfolly]

God in heaven, your family sounds like a bunch of vultures. No wonder grandma doesn't want anything going to them. Not only is it selfish, it is outright ugly to say "I get that back when you Kick off". It must really make your grandma feel loved...not!!!!

Keep it, let mom learn to deal. Keep being nice to everyone just because its the right thing to do, not because you expect to get something for it.

 

[NWChicks]

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This is exactly what I was thinking!

 

[fordmommy]

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That it horribaly selfish of those people.

Some people are very ungreatful.

I don't blaim your GM for getting upset. If I was her, I would just turn those things over to Goodwill!

 

[b.hromada]

You keep them, your grandmother gave them to YOU.

 

[redhen]

Poor Grandma... I feel kinda bad for her. Jeez....

Personaly i would not care what your mother says.. your gram gave them to you.. you keep them!
Also..WHY is your mother even putting you in such a nasty position... my god... she dont sound right.

 

[chickaddict]

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x2 - this is something they have to work out